I've known this girl for 2 yrs and i've liked her 4awhile now and I know she likes me becuz...
- she would stay up late to talk to me even if we argued
- she said she missed me during the summer
- she emails me & IM's me a lot
-she actually asked me whether i'd consider her to be my g/f
oh wait... She chose her cheating b/f over me...a girl whom I confided with , was there for her through thick & thin...& I can't believe shes going back to her ex...why do girls do this! I don't care if im "Just friends" with her but the fact that she lead me and lied pisses me off
2007-12-21 06:13:12 · 10 answers · asked by Just Ask 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i told her to have a nice life & take this fabricated illusion she calls a friendship & shove it ...its been 6 wks, ive gotten a few private # calls, but i dunno y...Recently she emailed me and said how sorry for trying to help me and apologizing -- i accepted her apology but told her it might take awhile, but i believe we can be friends again, do u think i made the right move by givin her another chance?
2007-12-21 06:14:47 · update #1
You took the wrong way out of this one. She never once said she was anything beyond a friend to you. The things you listed above (save for the last one) are things I would do to my friends, so they don't necessarily mean she liked you as anything beyond that. I don't see anything that says she lead you on or lied to you.
She doesn't have any self-esteem if she's going back to a cheater, or else she thinks he's changed but that's unlikely. Did you ever ask her out? What did she say?
What you did was bad. You should never ever throw your friends out when you need them. You let your feelings get in the way, and it's a hard thing to avoid doing, I know. You may have lost her forever, but I'd grin and bear it. If you want to salvage your friendship, do it; otherwise, count your losses and move on.
2007-12-21 06:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by xK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly. Girls sometimes make stupid decisions. She may have gone back to her Ex, but by being there for her like true best friend would. She will see who she is ment to be with. They broke uyp for a reason. And, as i just found out in my own life. Taking someone back and giving them a second chances never works out. What ever the reason they broke up the first time will come around again. And she will need you. Firend like that are hard to find. It sounds like you and her are close. Don't throw that away over some looser of an Ex who will I geurantee it be an EX again. Just be patient and fix yall's friendship.
2007-12-21 06:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being just friends with a girl. You are a person that she has come to trust and care about, even though she might not have enough feelings for you to ever have it become more than that.
Why don't you just keep your friendship boundaries in place and enjoy being in her company as a person, not a prospective date/girlfriend?
Maybe some day she'll finally come to her senses and see what's been there all along. Then again, maybe you'll both realize that you were just meant to be friends and will enjoy a nice mutual companionship and conversation.
2007-12-21 06:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you looking for a friendship or a relationship? that's the first decision that needs to be made. If you're hoping a friendship will lead to a relationship, you're setting yourself up to be hurt again. If you're hoping just for a friendship, then treat it just as a friendship. Don't get committed beyond what you'd normally do. Friends do forgive other friends. And if you're looking for a relationship, approach it that way. In a relationship, you don't win girls over by being their best buddy. Women want masculine men. One's who are confident and purposeful. So basically, figure out why you're upset. Do you want a friendship or a relationship?
2007-12-21 06:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by amy8bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should give her another chance. girls are fickle, gah we cant ever make up our mind about what we want. sounds like she wants a relationship with you but maybe you haven't taken the initiative to start one? that's probably why she went back to her ex, to see if it would push you to make a move and ask her out. the whole jealousy thing backfired huh? try to make things right with her. if you really care about each other, you should be together
2007-12-21 06:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by wolfpack girl 08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made this into something way farther than what it was. I mean maybe she did asked you if you would consider her to be you gf but maybe she was just bored. I have asked plenty of guys that question just to see what the would actually say but I would never want to be with them. She didnt lie to you. She never told you that she wanted to be with you. Get over it.
2007-12-21 06:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by luvcaramel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bah, she just misses the attention you were giving her. I don't think she actually liked you, sorry. Tell her to have a happy life with her cheatin' ex.
2007-12-21 06:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you actually date her and then she went back to her ex ?
I think its malitious to lead someone on and then just drop them but if you still care about her then give her another chance but I would be hesitant to pour your heart out to someone like that
2007-12-21 06:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it never hurts to give another chance...just stop before you're giving 1252 chances -- been there, done that, shoulda stopped LONG before i did!!
2007-12-21 06:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. it seems like your her second choice. so just hang in there, if you really like her.
2007-12-21 06:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Meow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋