Help!
Ok so i am getting married next summer (yey)
My fiance has to leave the UK for 6 months (part of his work)
I have my final university exams in about 2 weeks
My parents are driving me crazy about the wedding
and one of my so called best friends hates me because my finace propsed to me (everything good MUST happen to her first)
I am so so so stressed! What can i do to free myself from all this stress. Please don't be horrible..this i serious.
Thanks
2007-12-21 06:10:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hey I'm kind of in the same boat I just had my finals last week and I work full time and my wedding is in May... it feels so overwellming at times. What I do to destress is I eaither read, burn a CD and just go for a drive untill its over. As for the "best friend" you need to talk to her and tell her that her attitude is pissing you off, don't fight, just tell her how you feel. That will make you feel better and maybe she'll change her attitude a bit. As far as your parents go I have found when they suggest things by saying "I'll think about that" or " Oh! I never thought about that, let me figure it out" that gives them an answer and it also gives you time to figure out what you want to do.... after all it is your wedding. Good luck if you need someone to talk to or to vent you can e-mail me. And Congrats on your engagement!
2007-12-21 06:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by mhireangel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, Take a breath! You have a lot of stresses right now!
I think you should just try and face one thing at a time. Understand that everything will fall into place!
I think that the best thing for you to do right now is to take some "me" time. Go out to a spa! Get your hair done, manicure, and a pedicure. Get a massage. Remember that you are going to come out stronger after managing so much stress.
Sit down with your hubby and your family. Tell them what youre feeling and ask them if they can maybe take on some of the wedding responsibilities. Also let your parents know that they are really stressing you out and that all you want is to make everyone happy while still having an amazing wedding.
Now for the "best friend"! She obviously is not a friend to you if she hates you for you getting engaged before her. I would think that she should be happy for you...not trying to bring you down. Maybe you need to distance yourself from her for a while until she gets her act together!
Just go have some time for yourself...and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
2007-12-21 15:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by kiki81503 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from time to time and relax doing what you need to do to relax.
There are wedding planner books and services available to help with the planning. I think there is 1 in microsoft works.
Unless you are paying for the wedding yourself,your parents should be allowed to help you since the bride's parents pay for the wedding (by tradition).
There are some costs that the groom must bear and he has to have some part in the wedding plan making too.
In the end it is your wedding and everything comes down to what you want.
Your "best" friend should be happy for you instead of making you wait until she gets proposed to first.
2007-12-21 14:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents to back off, that you're focused on school right now and once your finals are over with, you can turn your attention to the wedding. It's too far off to be going crazy over---seriously! Your so-called best friend is just that----so-called. I'd have a serious discussion with her about being on board with you and at least PRETENDING to be happy for you even if she is green with envy. Spend as much time with your hubby to be between now and the time that he leaves, and stop stressing over a wedding that is happening more than six months away. Seriously, relax!
2007-12-21 14:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. Get over yourself. Then reasses the situation. Why did he propose if he's leaving for 6 months? Just to keep you faithful while he's gone? Have you set a wedding date? Are you going to get married the minute he returns - leaving you to do all the planning by yourself?
Before you get too carried away, sit down and take an honest look at things.
2007-12-21 16:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by monicanena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE A DEEP BREATH.
Tell your parents no more wedding talk until after your exams.
Obviously, your friend is jealous... let it go. If she's really your friend, she'll eventually get over it and apologize. If she isn't, you're better off without her.
Your fiance can't help the fact that he needs to travel. It's not a good situation, but it's temporary.
Congratulations on your engagement!
2007-12-21 14:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by grinonli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya girl, i swear weddings are the biggest stress you can have....and it sucks!!!!!! I am right there with as far as stress... I am to the point of canceling the whole damn thing just to save my sanity....
Personally , i mine went offshore to work for 6 weeks and i plan to baracade myself at home for the next month be un reachable unless i want to be reached. No cell phone, maybe i will answer an email. ..here and there and just do what i want to do Period.
that also means all things wedding i will do what I want and on my time.
And if your best friend is pissy, to heck with her too.
those who matter do not care , those who care do not matter.
just take time to breath.
2007-12-21 14:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by la de da 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't u treat yourself to like a day at the spa. i think u need it because of all that sress your holding up. Tell your firend that you don;t like what shes doing because its putting a lot of stress on you and if she does it any more say your gonna go crazy! O by the way congrats on the wedding!
2007-12-21 16:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
read a good book, relax at a spa, get a facial, use a sauna, soak in a bubble bath, or just take a chill pill and stay at home, and watch Food Network (that's what I do!!LOL)
Hope you can relieve your stress!! Good Luck with the marriage! Best of wishes to you!! :)
2007-12-21 14:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of time to sort these thing out. Take a deep breath and tell every one you got everything under control...and as for your friend ignore her inmaturity.
2007-12-21 16:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋