Reason being, I like someone but they don't have a job, car, etc. But they are great... personality wise and very respectful.
My cousin says she will never talk to anyone who doesn't have a car. At first, I thought it was her being materialistic but now I'm not so sure.
What are your thoughts on this? Is it wrong not to want to talk to somone because of their financial status?
2007-12-21 05:18:32 · 13 answers · asked by 1 Love 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look, i'm at a point in my life where i cant play around and have a pretty boy that doesnt have any cash and isn't going anywhere. it becomes a simple waste of your time and your cash and will go unappreciated. my very first criteria, must have clothes, car, insurance, job and if at certain ages, a degree. as you get older, you realize what matters and how certain people that are lacking with certain items tend to be lacking in certain qualities. given, there are a few exceptions
2007-12-21 05:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's materialistic (materialistic would be "I won't talk to anyone who doesn't drive a BMW"). I'd be with someone who didn't have a car if we lived in an area where it was plausible (Chicago, New York, Washington, D.C. - somewhere that the public transportation system is good).
I want someone who can take care of himself. I'm not out to find a husband so I can work all day, take care of the kids, and do his chores because he's too lazy to help. I don't care if he works at McDonald's as long as he's bringing in some income for us to live on and he's happy.
Do you know why this guy doesn't have a job or car? Could be he got laid off and hasn't found a job yet but is looking. Without a job, it's kind of hard to make car payments. Try to give him the benefit of the doubt, but if it's clear that he's not working because he's lazy, then it's time to reconsider.
2007-12-21 05:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a difficult situation, and don't think you are being shallow to worry about this stuff. If he does not have a job because he just got layed off, or just finished school, then I would not worry about it. However, if he does not have a job because he is lazy, or has no direction in life, that could end up being a stressful relationship.
2007-12-21 05:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by nene111782 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. is he not working cuz he don't want a job or is he desperately looking for work. you never know he may get the perfect job when you're together. personality and the way he treats you is the most important, anyone can get a job and car but not everyone is a great person, you can't buy personality.
go for it
2007-12-21 05:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by squishynix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your planning on marrying the guy I can see why it would be an issue. but seeming thats not the case, yea it is wrong not to want to talk to someone because as their financial status. You should be marked by who you are (as you say he has a great personality) and not by how much $ is in your wallet.
2007-12-21 05:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends, are they trying to get things on track? Or just lookin for free rides from friends.
I couldn't do the whole picking them up all the time and driving all the time thing. But if they are trying then maybe.
2007-12-21 05:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to him. But in the long run you are going to get tired of his unemployment and lack of transportation. It's going to become burdensome and you will lose respect for him.
2007-12-21 05:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its kinda harsh,but,if yall didnt live in the same city then how would he come see you?
You could try dating him,but hint to him that he should get a job.
Maybe he will if he wants to be with you.
Hope I helped.
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2007-12-21 05:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by Baby<3Britt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not wroong, u need a man with money so he can take car of u like man r supposed 2 not u take care of him
2007-12-21 05:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Money causes issues.
2007-12-21 05:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋