my boyfriends dad died a week ago. he was in a coma for years. so it was not a shock. but my boyfriend doesnot want to do sex now. he says that he is not ready. he is all the time sad. my question is, has anyone been in this situation and how long does it take to start a sexual life again?pls help.
2007-12-21 05:15:55 · 16 answers · asked by atahsina 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's probably gonna be a while. Grow up and be supportive - don't bother him about sex right now.
2007-12-21 05:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have sex when your boyfriend is ready. Your being insensitive to your boyfriends needs. His dad died a week ago...why do you want to rush him into having sex with you? Give your man some time and when he's ready, he will have sex with you. Give him as long as it takes. Be a little more sensitive to his needs. I'm surprised you are concerned about sex at a time like this. Your boyfriend is going through some hard times, and you want to know when he's going to have sex with you? Give him a break.
2007-12-21 13:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by Debi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's a little angry with you for being so self centered. It doesn't matter if his dad was sick for years before he died...he was still "here"...and now he's not. Your boyfriend needs time to accept that. It's only been a week for cripes sake...and YOU'RE worred about sex!
You need to back off a little and dig up some compassion somewhere. Has it ever occurred to you that maybe he's only using his dad's death as an excuse to back away from your selfishness? Maybe he's seeing you in a different light now?
2007-12-21 13:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is grieving for the loss of his father. Your boyfriend is probably going through his grieving process and this is the way he is doing it by not having sex adn being sad. It will take some time for him to get better. even then he will still be sad. You should give him some time and try to be supportive to him jus let him know you care and that you are there for him
2007-12-21 13:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea1215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is grieving...there is not set time table. He needs time and he needs support. Don't get upset with him or pressure him and he will feel acceptance and one day be ready. It will happen sooner the more accepting and patient you are.
The death of a loved one can be the breaking point of other relationships...so just wait patiently and he'll be less likely to pull completely away.
2007-12-21 13:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by cutealli30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to have a little more sympathy for your boyfriend. If you need sex, take matters into your own hands. Everyone's grieving period is different; it could be weeks or months before he's ready.
2007-12-21 13:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by xK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows how long it will take, everyone grieves differently. Stop worrying about sex and just be there for him.
2007-12-21 13:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by tarie75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sympathy, be there for him, and stop worrying about your sex life. He needs you the most right now.
2007-12-21 13:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the situation how can you be happy if ur dad died a week ago..give him space, he hasn't recovered yet
2007-12-21 13:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by HelpMeHelpYou.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need to do is be there for him and don't push him into having sex. Support him with his grief. When he ll feel better you ll have it. He after all is your boyfriend, not your joy toy???????????
2007-12-25 12:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Persa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋