So ever since the year started i've been flirting with this girl, talking and hugging in the halls, hanging out with groups outside of school, sitting with each other at lunch ect. I can tell she finds me physically attractive by comments she makes, and ive caught her staring at me a couple times when she didnt think i was looking. She even sat on my lap during a hs hockey game. I don't have any classes with her but Whenever isee her in the halls we always smile and say hey, or hug. She also laughs at almost everything I say.
She gave me her number but when I call she always says she has to go. A couple days ago I was in the car with a brother of a kid (lets call him A) I know and mentioned her and A's bro said that she was going out with A, even though I see them toghtehr and she's never as freindly as she is with me. She never mentioned she was going out with him and never talks about him to anyone, so do you think the kid was lying or misinformed or is the ***** just leading me on?
2007-12-21 05:06:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Btw me the girl and a are sophmores and
A's bro is a senior.
2007-12-21 05:07:09 · update #1
Ok so she likes you but if she has a bf that sucks. I think you should just ask her plainly. Just be like do u have a bf? see wut she says if she says no be like do u want one? if she says why or idk just be like Go out with me then smile lol its cute and totally straight forward. But if she a bf back off a little you want her to almost be like I am stupid for letting that go.
2007-12-21 05:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She talks with you, hangs around with you, and is obviously comfortable enough around you to hug you or sit in your lap. She must "like" you in some way.
Your question appear to be, "Does this behavior mean that she likes me as an exclusive, romantic boyfriend?". The answer to that would be "No".
Her behavior is just flirting. Since this is new behavior for teens -- it doesn't carry as much weight and implications as with adults. Teens also tend to exagerate flirting since other teens aren't as good in picking up signals. For example, a grown woman sitting in someones lap is a clear sign the two are a couple. In fact, it would be unnecessary as a simple putting her hand on his shoulder for a few seconds would send the same message which most adults would pick up on. A smile or holding onto a handshake for an extra seconds would typically be enough to show interest in someone else. The same behavior from a teen does not sends as strong a signal.
However, there is an easy way to be sure you got a signal correctly -- ask. Flirting can include talking. Also, key is that flirting can only show interest. To send a negative signal one typically has to do so verbally and in fairly clear terms.
For example, when she sits in your lap, ask her "Hey, someone appears to be looking for a new boy friend?". If she isn't interested in you that way, her only option is a fairly clear verbal answer.
In the case of A's brother... you are obviously friendly enough with this girl to ask her such a question outright. "Hey, I just heard you were dating A's brother?" If she isn't, then I'm sure she might like to know that A or A's brother are saying these things. If she is seeing him, then it there is no reason to not tell your friend this. If the question itself makes her upset or you don't get a straight answer, you have your answer.
2007-12-21 14:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by bw022 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi guy, OK its not your beeswax about her social life, so put it out of your mind. Glad I'm not your age again because for some reason you teens get all tied up in knots about attraction. If shes good looking shes responding to a guy who steps up to the plate. Have you? Just by saying hey girl why aren't we hooking up and hanging out???? Are you taken my heart can't take it any longer what the 911 on this?
2007-12-21 13:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
um i would either confront her or forget about it.. if your planning on a more serious relationship she's already started off on the wrong foot... if it were me though (and it was a guy not a girl..) i would just be like ummmm whats going on..
2007-12-21 13:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by baileyboo122 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe...jus maybe...the kid lied, maybe A's bro WANTS to go out with her and A was helping his bro out
2007-12-21 13:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by that 1 chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋