Do you beleive in sex before merrige?

Answer 1

i think it's a bad idea. i had sex before i was married and i regret it all the time. i was way to young when i started.

Answer 2

I hear many people asking "how will you know if your compatable in bed if you wait until you are married?" to me thats not a very well thought out question. If someone was to never experience something, then how would they know if their partner was bad? Because to say something is bad you have to compare it with something that you consider to be better.

For example, say you have never listened to music ever in your life, but one day a friend lets you listen to a John Cage album. Now you being ignorant to the hole concept of music would not be able to discern whether or not the music was bad, because of the irregular rests and silence, or good, just because you have build up an opinion from sampling other music, because you would have nothing to compare it with.

Good comes with a complement of words: better and best. Bad comes with a complement of words also: worse and worst. Both the word and their degrees coming from a comparison being made. The problem with todays society is that people rush into sex and now have measuring rods, so if they do decide to get married if the man they marry "cant put in work" between the sheets they feel as though a divorce is in order. My question to you is, "Is sex the only thing your spouse is good for?" If you even had to think about the answer then you must question your "love" for this person.

And besides the fatal affect on marriage, sex before marriage, like many others have stated, opens the door to a slew of things: unwanted babies, std's, mental and emotional stress, depression etc.

I just want to know is it worth it?

Answer 3

I don't beleive in it. I speak as someone who didn't wait and I wish so much that I would have waited. I love my husband and I know he loves me but I wish I could have given him that gift. I say this because in this day and age people take sex as something casual. And really it's not. It something to be shared with someone you love and someone who you are partners with in a more serious way than boyfriend and girlfriend. It doesn't matter how much you say you love each other. Why do you think their are so many sexual transmitted diseases. If people would wait, men and women alike, they would not be infected. Except of course for the ones who accidentally get infected like nurses from accidentally getting pricked from a needle, or those whom get infected at or during birth, etc. A sexual disease is a consequence for not waiting. And although some people may say "Whatever" to what I am saying, they won't be saying it when they (and I hope this doesn't happen) are at the doctors office being told they are HIV Positive. Everyone thinks it's not gonna happen to them.

Answer 4

I don't. Aside from the fact that it is frowned upon in many faiths, I think waiting makes it all the more special for the two and provides a firm bond in marriage. Some say it has to be tested and good before they will get married. To that, I say they are missing the real reason of sex. Giving your body to your spouse is a gift that should only be given once.

Answer 5

When you say believe, you make it sound as if a person has a faith that says you should have sex before marriage. As in you have to have sex before marriage. If this is the case then no, You should not be obligated to have sex at any time. Even if it is after marriage.

it is not a matter of believe systems. The fact is that people have sex, period. We where made for sex (among other things). We are all sexual beings end of story. Some people control their sexual behavior better than others or different than others. Some people chose to wait until marriage. Most, however, don't. Most kids born are not planned and even less conceive after marriage. Most are conceive then the parents quickly get married because for some reason they feel shame.

You have to get some things clear. Marriage is a good thing for those who avide by its rule. Yet, marriage does not guarantees anything. People cheat or they get divorce. It happens to all sort f people even the most religious observing ones. Just like there are people who are truly bastards yet, they have a happy and full filing marriage. These are all facts. You can look at all the studies made. All agree that some marriages are successfull and others aren't. It all depends on how much effort you are willing to put into it and how much effort the other person is willing to reciprocate. Also, love can fade over time.

Why is understanding what I stated above important? Because by accepting those facts and note they are facts and not belief; you can then by extension easily see that waiting to have sex after you get married does not guarantees success either. The opposite is also true, it does not guarantees failure. There are people who have re married and have been sucessfull at it.

There are benefits about being weary of who you sleep with. You really have to know who you are getting in with. Like a friend used to say (female by the way). You have to know who you are sticking with and who you are sticking it to. There are risk related to sex like STD. However, none have to do with your future hapyness or lack there of as far as marriage is concerned.

Also, if you understand why this whole mariagge/virginity fiasco is all about you would understand that it is really demeaning to woman.You see, back in the day, women where property. They where a precious commodity. If you wanted to survive, you needed to procreate and as we all well now, you need a woman for that. People back then did not lived long and there weren't a lot of people around either. So, the father of the girl would "sale" the girl to a guy. They didn't call it selling. You didn't buy a wife, you gave a dowry. Which is the same s hit with a different name. Such a commodity as a female cost a lot. It could cost you a few cows or grains. So, aman would had to make sure that he was buing a quality product. Ergo, virginity. They used to put white blankets underneath the girl so that they would get tainted by the blood. Look it up if you don't believe me. So, you ask, why virginity? well, if the girl was not a virgin then there would be a good chance that she may be pregnant with another mans child. Raising children takes a lot of resources so, you wanted to ensure that you where spending your resources on your own gene line.
Now, you know the whole purpose of virginity and waiting until you get married. Notice that throught out history only woman are chastised by having sex before marriage. I think you can make the connection as to why.

Now lets look at the same problem using a made up example. Lets say for a moment that thee are two females. One is a virgin and the other one is not. Most people will say, will say that the virgin is more virtuous. But, is she really. What if the second girl was a humanitarian. She help, those in need. She is good with children and is a hard worker. In short she contribute with the community. Lets assume that for example, all the virgin does is just be a virgin. When we compare these two then you can see that the non virgin at least in this example is the more virtuous one. Now, lets extend this example by saying that you didn't know which was which. Then the matter of sex is automatically muted because you would judge the person based on who they are and not on how many people that person may have slept with. In either case sex is really not a good measuring stick. The truth of the matter is that you will love a person for their virtues and qualities and not on whether they waited until marriage. Again, being a virgin does not makes a person more virtuous. If it was then all the mothers on this world are a bunch of w hores.

The whole issue of waiting for marrige is a resourse issue for the girl. Especially if she is young which is when this really comes into play. IF a woman is very resourceful then nobody really cares. However, if a woman is young then there is the fear that she will become a single mom. If she was married then the guy would be more willing to stay. That is a good argument in pro of waiting.

Long story short, it is all a matter of resources. Having sex before or after marriage does not makes a person better than any other. So, it all boils down to your belief system and if your partner share those same belief system. Because you could wait until you are 35 for a man but, if he doesn't care then it was for naughts. Is like that x-mas gift that peple give you that you then return to the store for something better. That is right, you can give a gift but that in itself does not guarantees that the person will be appreciative of it.

In the end do what feels right for you ad live your life according to your code.

Answer 6

if you wan to runin your life then.. yes have sex before marriage but for me I dont want to ruin my life so NO!!! I agree with Holly and what she said about guys saying YES! Most guys are llike that. But BOT ALL GUYS there are some out there in the world that have a heart and think about others and not just look at a girls body! I am a christain and that is one of Gods 10 commentents. So if you choose to have sex before merriage then thats fine but you will suffer in many ways: one way you can suffer is: getting pregant and then you have to take care of the kid , most of the time the boyfriend leaves u and you are respoible for this kid. another reason is you can get lots of dieases that can kill you. So be smart!

Answer 7

Whats merrige?

Answer 8

I believe that waiting until your wedding day will make the experience more special but I don't believe that you will burn in hell for it. I think that it's a personal decision and it's your right to wait or not, there is no harm in either if you are safe about it.

And for the idiot who says that there is no such thing as safe sex... sorry but your wrong. Both my fiancee and I waited to have sex until we had both had STD tests done and were clear, and we use both birth control and a condom. There is nothing unsafe about the way we have done this. We just chose to have sex now instead waiting until we get married (we won't be getting married until I graduate from college... which will be another 3 years).

Answer 9

Not really. But if a person happens to have sex before marriage they can be forgiven since God is merciful.

It's not fair for people to judge each other and say that it is a horrible act. Everyone's situation is different and sometimes things just happen : )

Answer 10

I believe that if your ready with a partner whether your dating or married then its fine to have sex, i dont think that you have to wait til after your married, what if your not compatibile in the bedroom? you might never enjoy sex, so without condoning anything of a explicit nature i think its completely up to the persons involved if you want to wait then wait if you would rather experiment and see what sex is all about with a few partners do that? its completely up to you but id go with the latter ( i did go with the latter lol )

Answer 11

No.

Premarital sex is wrong.

There is no such thing as safe sex. Condoms and birth control pill crap aren't 100% effective. You can still get STD's, get pregnant, and HIV/AIDS...

People always say ooh you have to test the water! Or that it's dumb to marry when you don't know what the sex is like. Or the sex stops after you marry...

But all of those statements come from people who have sex before marriage.

People who don't have premarital sex have happier marriages and that is a proven fact...

btw I'm a 16 year old virgin.. I'm waiting until marriage...