I started going out with a new guy about a week ago (it'll be 2 on sunday) but he doesnt seem to want to get close. I always have to make the first move. It still hasn't gone further than a lingering peck on the lips! I've never had this problem before. I've talked to friends and people that know him and it turns out he's like this with most girls, yep the dreaded 'f' word (frigid)! Anyway meeting him tomorrow but I don't want t push it too far, I'm supposed to be going to meet his familly on xams eve too! Anyway your views? How far should I try and take,do I talk to him about it? Is it because he doesnt want kiss me at school,or infront of his friends? Am I trying to take things too fast?
Oh and he's REALLY hot! and I do really like him.
2007-12-21 04:26:43 · 22 answers · asked by kc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay first things first we're 15. And I'm not some kind of whore I'm not on about "intimacy" I just mean more of a kiss less of a peck!
2007-12-21 04:40:25 · update #1
just go ahead and kiss him, if you wanna, it's not that hard, make him feel like he want's it, be gentle with him, cos he seems a bit insecure, probably doesn't know how to kiss, so show him how
2007-12-21 05:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by rjhfocus77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it personally if your guy doesn't want to spend every waking moment with you. If you've only been dating for 2 weeks, then you're more "friends" right now than boyfriend//girlfriend. So try to slow down the pace a little bit.
Sometimes, boys will act "frigid" or distant if they think things are moving too fast.
The best relationships are built on friendship... so spend this time just getting to know the guy, and enjoying the time you spend together. It might be difficult not to call him all the time, but by making yourself less available, he'll want to see you more!
2007-12-21 04:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys are different. Some guys want to have sex the very next day, and some guys won't even kiss until two years later. This is just another one of those guys who aren't sweet and wants to keep a slow and steady relationship. It's not that you're rushing a relationship. He's just trying to slow it down. If you truly like him, then you would respect his wishes and take things slower than usual for a while.
2007-12-21 04:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Moonlight Cherry Blossom♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to get to know him as a person before trying to start something sexual with him so quickly. He may have a belief system different than yours about when it's ok to start a physical relationship. He may just need to get to know who you are as a person. Not everyone in the world wants sex right off the bat in a relationship. If you need it right away, I suggest looking elsewhere. If you think he's the one for you then take your time and see what happens. The world won't end if it doesn't work out for you and him.
2007-12-21 04:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by truckinmann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most boy problems are actually caused by girls...believe or not.
I don't know this particular guy but...
These days smarter, boys prefer to let the girls make the first move bcos their big brothers have suffered severe heart aches for going after the girls they loved. I'm sure some of the older girls reading this catch my drift. And some girls find frigid vulnerable...and that makes them vulnerable.
2007-12-21 04:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by as_a_youngthief_in_da_night 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is a nice respectable boy . he doesnt want to do anything or start anything he is not ready for. just go at his pace slow down take time to get to know each other and hang out and talk. you will be much happier when you know that he kissed you because he got to know u and like u rather than knowing that he kissed you cause u forced him. guys dont kike when people rush the to do anything so just go with the flow. sounds like he knows what hes doing. wish the best for both of you
2007-12-21 04:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by pinkparadiseforever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is scared and never been with a female before. Go ahead and grab him and through him down on the floor and have your way with him. That ought to loosen him up some.:)
2007-12-21 04:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should ask him first, and then see if he wants to get close to you. Or maybe you should just go for it. I think it's a good thing that you're making the first move. Anyway, so if you want to get close to him, just tell him how you feel and what you want to do.
2007-12-21 04:30:54 · answer #8 · answered by ♥**~ Sammy ~**♥ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you like him so much you won't ruin it by rushing things. Sometimes you have to it back and let him take the lead. If you've only been seeing him a week, don't you think it's early to be meeting his family?
2007-12-21 04:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he is hot and you do like him... back off.
the guy might be shy and no one wants a girl throwing herself at them or trying to take the lead.... it is a turn off!!!!!!
You need to be more patient and let him come to you in his time.
Not every guy is on the make and wants to smother you with kisses anywhere, anytime.
Good things are worth waiting for.....
2007-12-21 04:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋