my hubbys ex still kept the ring do women really go on to wear these rings even if there has been two or three broken engagements.i mean some women must get a collection of the things.do the rings still mean anything as in someone fiancee ?do men who buy a second or third fiancee a ring buy cheaper ones to save money in case its another flop?
2007-12-21 03:46:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
he said she was to keep it as he didnt want it
2007-12-21 04:22:56 · update #1
they spilt up cos she said they were going no where cos he wasnt ready to buy a house and live together so when they decided to get back together and she asked to put the ring back on he said no were not going back to as before i need to get to trust you again so the ring was never put back on and they eventually broke up and thats where i came in!
2007-12-22 20:59:04 · update #2
The ring MUST be returned to the man. It was not a gift in the regular sense of the word, but symbolized the promise to get married.
Added - if he said for her to keep it, I'd give it to his mom, then.
2007-12-21 03:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My fiance and his ex broke off the engagement and she didn't want the ring even though he tried to have her keep it since he was the one that broke off the engagement. I don't think she knew what she wanted to do with it, and honestly I can see her point.
When it was time for us to get engaged, we were fortunate that the jewelry store had a trade in policy for the diamond to get full value as long as you spent more than the original diamond was worth. Since my fiance was in a good financial situation he decided to buy me a nicer diamond than what he gave to his first fiance. So I think it completely depends on your situation.
With other people that I know, sometimes the girl keeps it and sometimes the guy keeps it. Just seems to depend on the situation. Most women I've know that kept the ring from a broken engagement or marriage keep it in a box and never wear it. Others turn it into a pendant to wear.
2007-12-21 14:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by ratherblusteryday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most states when an engagement is broken the ring must legally be returned, there are a few states that dicatate the ring be returned only if the groom breaks the engagement but the vast majority of states demand by law the ring be returned...and this is why.....
An engagement ring is a gift given in contemplation of marriage.....in other words the girl keeps it only if the wedding takes place. You see, it's not an outright gift but one with a very big string attached, or a condition, and that is the marriage takes place. Given the cost of most engagement rings, why should the guy keep paying on an expensive betrothal ring when he will end up with no wife? That's not the point of the ring, is it? Shame on those gold diggers who keep an engagement ring they are not entitled to keep....I for one would not want or wear it, even re-set...the stone represents/comes from a relationship that didn't work out...it's not a notch on one's belt......disgusting...and no, the girl doesn't deserve to keep it for her 'heart ache'.....you're supposed to buck up and move on and one doesn't get monetary compensation or a gift for a broken heart........time , and a new love not a diamond heals that.
By that same token once the marriage happens the bridal rings are hers to keep, even if the marriage ends in divorce.....when I and my ex divorced he called me up demanding I give him the rings back as his mother said I should, and neither one of them wanted me to continue wearing them...I told him that he was too late, I had to sell them to pay the bills he left me with...which was the truth. He got mad and called his lawyer, then actually brought the subject up at a hearing even tho his lawyer tried to sush him.....the judge, a man, laughed and said once I married him they were mine out right and he could demand them until the cows came home....he was outta legal luck.
..and judging by the thumbs down there's at least one gold digger out there....lol hey, the law & the truth hurts.
2007-12-21 12:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow... tough question. I think i'm going to definitely ask this question on our blog. For a woman to keep the ring its gotta be an insecurity issue to them, holding on to something that they've lost (in the relationship). I cant understand why they would want a reminder of a broken engagement though. And for a man who's had a 2nd and Third fiancee to buy a cheaper ring.... I can understand them being nervous but maybe they need to be more selective of their fiancee's? Maybe?
Anyways this is definitely blog material! Good question!
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2007-12-21 11:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Technically, the ring is a "conditional gift", and is supposed to be returned to the giver in the event of a broken engagement (regardless of the circumstances of the break-up).
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Engagement_ring
I don't know what ppl do with the engagement rings after the break up. I suppose one could pawn it or give it away. I keep mine tucked away in a jewelry box somewhere.
2007-12-21 12:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally wouldn't want to wear a ring from a broken engagement. However the tradition is that if the ring is given on a holiday or birthday, it's considered a gift and the woman keeps it. But if it's given on a regular day. The woman gives it back. Of course, if it's a family heirloom from the man's side, I would say regardless of the day given, give it back.
2007-12-21 11:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I had a promise ring and an engagement ring from my ex. He cheated so I felt no obligation to return it. I pawned mine. Didn't get much money though. You may want to look at posting on Craigslist or Ebay.
2007-12-21 12:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I gave my engagement ring and promise ring back - he flushed them down the toilet. Considering the total price of both he could have traded them in for a bus pass maybe. What a d!ck.
The ring I have now will never leave my hand and he will never leave my side.
2007-12-21 11:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Angela O 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My fiance broke off our engagement. The ring he gave me was a family heirloom so I did the right thing and I gave it back!! not like I was gonna wear the thing anyway!!
2007-12-21 12:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by HUh?!? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd always heard that its by law the ring should be returned, unless it was ultimately the male's fault that the engagement broke up. ie-- if he had an affair, is married to somebody else, etc etc.
2007-12-23 08:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by Expecting Momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋