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Why do you seek to make an introvert uncomfortable?

2007-12-21 03:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by sweatyshavedpits 4 · 5 3

First off I am a very friendly people person. I will always tend to say good morning to everyone upon entering the workplace. Not always by name, but just an eye contact and a good morning. To those jerks that reply with "What's so good about it" I say your here and your breathing aren't you" and I keep walking to where I am going. I usually don't have to say anything else. It is always nice to hear the Good Morning when you first get to work before the "Orders" start. I wont ignore the jerks I tend to keep up with the morning salutation or afternoon, etc and always make eye contact if possible with the person.
With this co-worker....I would for sure, make a point to get in front of them making eye contact and say "Good Morning, glad to see you today. What do you think about this weather? I was freezing just getting into the car, and should have worn my heavier jacket?" YOU come up with whatever you need to to get this person out of the shell they are in!!!!
Even if they think they are better than you they still will acknowledge in some way. Could be they feel out of place, and like they dont belong, or people there are not worth their time. What ever it is just try to get them to speak, and let them know it is always better to start off the day with a "Good Morning" before Bosses start off shouting the orders.
The rest should fall into place. Remember they aren't looking for a best friend in the workplace, and maybe neither are you, but, making the workplace as amiable as possible makes the day move faster and is more enjoyable while you are there. And that should be the point.
I have had several Bosses...Managers, etc....that would always start off in the morning when they see me with "Hey, go get the **** ####****** and do ####*****######. I turn around and look them straight in the eye and say "Well, good morning to you, and how are you today". They always stop and realize they should have said Good Morning first...before shouting the to do list. From then on during the day...the attitude of the Order giving is different...and is more like "Would you get the **** and take care of the #### !!!!!!!
Instead of "GET the ***and do the ### ****.......... Makes my day nicer, and it is better for the customers I had to deal with and the boss even perks up and lightens up. So it is all in how you start the work day....and always SMILE....and be as upbeat as possible even with the grouches and jerks. They will come around if you keep at them.

2007-12-21 12:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Toffy 6 · 0 0

maybe they have a social disorder that hinders them from using 'theory of mind' but they do their job very well. Added pressures of being told "do your work efficiently" and "polite conversation" is a burden for people who can't seem to discern which rule is more important.... thus tend to simply adhear to the rule that signs their paycheck. Unwittingly, co-workers take offense to this 'lack of acknowledgement' and can't tell what that person is thinking and tends to think that quiet person is up to something. That is exactly how someone with the lack of ability of theory of mind feels. They don't know what the other person is feeling or thinking, but their experience has been that if you're quiet, you can avoid social faux pas!

2007-12-21 11:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 1 1

Nothing. She might have social anxiety or something.

Think about it this way: if she's not harming anyone or hurting feelings, then it's okay. People are different, some may choose to be chatty and some are quiet, maybe even introverted.

If someone is verbally abusive and creating bad feelings, lashing out at people, that's not okay and needs to be addressed. But if someone just keeps to themselves, let them be.

2007-12-21 11:39:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5 0

You should wait until everyone is listening, and then loudly say, "You talk too much." Putting her on the spot is a good way to make her feel comfortable enough to open up.

2007-12-21 13:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I would say hi, my name is............ what is yours, sometimes people wait for a response from you.
In other words, don't wait for her to make the first move try to make her feel welcome, maybe she feels out of place, or on the other hand maybe she just wants to be left alone.
What ever the reason it is apparent it bothers you. confront her and solve the never acknowledges anyone she works with problem.
At least you will know.

2007-12-21 11:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by joe 2 · 0 2

Acknowledge how? Like by saying "good morning" or giving credit where credit is due?

2007-12-21 11:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by vintner 6 · 4 1

I worked with someone like this - don't say anything, because she really doesn't care about what you have to say. Obviously there just to collect a paycheck and not make any friends.

2007-12-21 11:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Maris 6 · 6 1

you say Hello.
maybe she is asking the same thing about her co-workers, maybe she is socially shy, don't judge her, try to help her by being the first to say Hi

2007-12-21 11:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4 1

she doesnt have to acknowledge you
she only has to work in the same building as you

2007-12-21 11:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by slopoke6968 7 · 4 0

Hello

2007-12-21 11:33:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 4

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