My boyfriend is 14 as well and my parents and my sister are gone for the hole weekend.Hes coming over in about an hour and i know he wants sex for like the whole weekend... my parents don't know hes coming and his parents will think hes at somone elses house what should i do i love him so much and ths is the first thing hes ever asked for and i feel so mean not giving it to him.
2007-12-21 03:21:32 · 105 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Where going out for about a year
2007-12-21 03:24:15 · update #1
Oh my God i've been absolutely overwhelmed with answers everybody.There is one little difference in that i was born with a condition that makes it phsyically impossible for me to have children so i'm not really worried about getting pregnant... however i'll still follow ye're advice and ask him to wait until we're older , i just hope he doesn't manage to manipulate me... Tanx a mil xox
2007-12-21 03:50:28 · update #2
That is a big decision; your virginity is a special gift; once you give it away you can never get it back,
I know you dont want to hear this but you are way to young to be making such a life altering decision....... At 14 it is highly unlikely you will even be with him next year.
Guys at that age think with their hormones; They talk among theirselves and brag about who they have went to bed with.
Imagine what would it feel like if you broke up with him and you squnader that special first time on him and he went and told the whole school and his friends. or if you got a hpv virus or a disease. Girls who have early sex have a much higher incidence of cervical cancer and other problems.
We women give our hearts when we give our bodies. men do not.
If he truly loves you he will wait. True love waits........ you have no business being home alone..... if your family trust you dont let them down...... Dont dishonor yourself or them.
When you give a guy you all and then they get tired of you and move on it hurts bad...............
Guard your heart and your virginity!
U could get a baby out of this deal too. how unfair would that be to you and the baby.
Get this book boundaries in dating by John Macloud totally awsome book. will answer all your questions so much better than me..... Wish I had read that book........
Thats not being mean to him. That is being mean to you to have sex when you are no where ready ! Love yourself.
Tell him to take a hike.
If you do I will bet you money he will go tell all his friends and his friends will be hitting on you for sex and you willl be branded a hoe!
It is not fair... Guys are called studs and applauded by his friends.
Girls are called hoes and passed around and discarded!
2007-12-21 03:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by tennessee 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
first at 14 i dont think you really know what love is. iam 51 and i still dont know.as far as him wanting sex,if he did love you,he wouldn't want it be cause he would respect you enough not to ask you to put your body thru that until you were married or old enough to really make a decision like that until your mind ,your brain was matured. see? your brain isn't even mature at 14.there is way to much for both of you to learn still and protection is not 100% effective. and by the time you get this now the weekend will be over and your parents will have been home.what did you do?
2007-12-21 03:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're too young. He's too young. Stay in school, and if you're still serious in about 4 years, you can have a wedding after graduation - followed by an entire week of shaking the mattress.
Chances are you won't stay together - not because there's anything wrong with you, that's just how these things go. And a transient BF is not worth ruining your life with an unexpected pregnancy.
2007-12-21 03:33:52 · answer #3 · answered by dukefenton 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sista call someone NOW!!!! Do not get your self in a position where this should even come up. You are too young for an adult decision like this and so is he. You want your first time to be right and not because you "Don't want to make him mad." or "Hurt his feelings." Sex is too powerful to pass out like gum at the carnival. A relationship built around lies will crumble and the more you lie to your parents the more you are building your house on shakey ground. Remember virginity does not have a money back guarentee, and God is watching everything you are doing or thinking.
2007-12-21 03:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Moose 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Call a girlfriend or two and invite them over so that when your boyfriend shows up he cannot ask for sex. Fourteen is much too young to be thinking about having sex. You have your whole life ahead of you and do not want to end up regretting any mistakes that you make now.
2007-12-21 03:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by RebelDixie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT FEEL MEAN FOR NOT HAVING SEX WITH HIM!
ok i may sound like aprent here for a second, but im 17 and i KNOW what im talking about! PLEASE READ THIS!
its illegal first of all.
second... if you have to ask, your most definitely not mentally prepared for it. theres a reason the age is what it is.
i promise you WILL regret this later. if all he wants from you is sex, he IS NOT the guy you need to be seeing! youre both fourteen! even if you dont wait till you get married [which would recommend] at least wait until after high school untill your in a SERIOUS SERIOUS relationship, like for more than a year!
dont EVER let a guy pressure you into having sex! if you have any doubts about it what-so-ever, it isnt the right time for you, and thats perfectly ok! wait until it is!
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2007-12-21 03:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer Caroline 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its not about feeing mean. You are too young to be having sex. At this point it is not about how he feels but how you will feel afterwards. This is a huge decsion and should not be based on not making someone else feel bad. All boys at this age will want to have sex that is normal since they are going through puberty. Did you think about what will happen if you get pregnant (because you can get pregnant even if it's your first time) did you think about how you will feel if you guys break up (because boys tend to move to the next girl fast) .How bad will you feel to know hat you gave up your virginity to someone who was not the one. what if word gets around in school that you had done this (becaues boys like to brag) Do you think ppl will be saying good or bad things about you. If he really likes you then he will understand that you are not ready and will not pressure you. If he makes you feel guilty or bad about then trust me he is not the one. You should be going to the movies, going ice-skating, going to the mall and having fun. This is not what you should be doing at 14. Do not disappoint your parents or yourself by doing this. Trust me it is a decsion you will regret making if you go through with it. Be smart and think about youreslf and your future.
2007-12-21 03:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by RG 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, i hate to tell this to you, but, if he wants sex, then he probably doesn't love you...guys that truely love you are concerned about your feelings as well as your own...if you're not comfortable with this situation (you shouldn't be), tell him. If he truely loves you, he will continue to date you. It sort of depends on the guy, but just remeber that no girl should have sex until she is married! I understand that you don't want to loose him, so handle it delicately. Why don't you suggest doing something really special instead that will still let you keep your clothes on? I don't know your boyfriend, but, if he was coming on kind of strong about this sex thing, you might need to be concerned. I mean, i'm not suggesting that your b-friend is a bad guy, but guys that want sex do strange things sometimes...
2007-12-21 03:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by shorty pants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your virginity is a special gift; once you give it away you can never get it back,
I know you dont want to hear this but you are way to young to be making such a life altering decision....... At 14 it is highly unlikely you will even be with him next year.
Guys at that age think with their hormones; They talk among theirselves and brag about who they have went to bed with.
Imagine what would it feel like if you broke up with him and you squnader that special first time on him and he went and told the whole school and his friends. or if you got a hpv virus or a disease. Girls who have early sex have a much higher incidence of cervical cancer and other problems.
We women give our hearts when we give our bodies. men do not.
2014-10-28 07:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say i don't want to be pressured into an act that is not secure within a marriage and since you and I are too young to get married back off or hit the streets.
You don't love at 14 years old, you just want to be needed, wanted, liked by a boy,popular or happy, but there is nothing that will prepare you for adult stresses like marriage, giving birth, birth control and abortions.
Have fun without that!!! Merry Christmas!
2007-12-21 03:27:09 · answer #10 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋