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Ok, so me and this guy have dated a few times. Nothing serious.

Then one night he left me a message at 9pm to invite me to watch a movie. I didn't reply. Nxt day he left me another message at 10pm that he wants to come to the club where I was..I didn't reply. I wrote him a txt message later in the week, saying I'm not a booty call. He APOLOGIZED and said he really wanted to see me again.

We txted each other back and forth for 2 weeks but I couldn't meet.

Yesterday we exchanged more messages. Than at night, I went to a bar with my friends..and he happened to be there with 2 guys and 3 GIRLS! So I assumed one was with him, right? He saw me, I guess...but didn't make any gesture to talk to me or even say hi. I IGNORED him too..didn't even look at him. They left eventually.

I txted him and said "Bye:)" to let him know I don't want to see him ever again.

He IMMEDIATELY replied to ask where I was..I told him it's ok if he had a gf but to leave me alone.

2007-12-21 02:51:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

He replied immediately to say that he didn't have a gf.

I am so confused. I ended up telling him I'd still like to hang out with him..he replied after couple hours (2am) saying he wanted to see me that night (and that he accidentally shut off his phone and that's why he didn't reply immediately to my last message).

2007-12-21 02:53:04 · update #1

oh, he said those people were his COWEOKERS!??? And that he had to entertain two of them, who were from a different city. Wtf?

2007-12-21 02:54:32 · update #2

thing is...I haven't been that nice either...so I can't actually be toooo harsh on him. I tild him a while back that I don't want a relationship at this point...so......

2007-12-21 02:59:07 · update #3

I made no efforts to say hi. I can't believe he just ignored me!!!! I thought that was his gf or date...so I thought to myself why put him in an uncomfortable situation with that girl? It was none of my business. I could think of no other explanation for him IGNORING me than the fact that he was dating one fo those 3 girls and didn't want to talk to me.

2007-12-21 03:02:43 · update #4

thing is...I don't think he has a GIRLFRIEND. He was out with me on Sat nights and Fri nights....so usually that means no gf. And he txts me every day.

2007-12-21 03:05:04 · update #5

11 answers

Ok, so let me get this right, you ignore his text messages, don't want to meet up with him, and you're the one suprised he went out with someone else. Hellllooooo?

I agree with your point that he may have been using you as a booty call, but look at the facts.

2007-12-21 02:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by The Major 4 · 1 0

Your first sentence is revealing. You dated a few times, nothing serious. Therefore, if he was with another girl, it's none of your concern. The two of you are not exclusive, so that gives him (and you) permission to keep playing the field. Doesn't mean it was his girlfriend (exclusive), could be a girl he was on a date with or a female friend who just broke up with her boyfriend, or a co-worker.

Did you make any move to say hi when you saw him? Why not go up to him and say hello? Were you just waiting for him to make the first move? Depending on his line of work, the fact that they were co-workers was plausible. (My boyfriend has to entertain people all the time.) He's made efforts to spend time with you, all of which you have turned down. Maybe it wasn't a booty call (although if you've slept with him, that could make sense). Hanging out late night doesn't have to lead to sex.

Sounds like you're looking for an out anyway, so I'd tell him it's over. But if you want an exclusive relationship, you need to bring it up. Otherwise, you'll be getting jealous over nothing.

2007-12-21 03:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by xK 7 · 0 0

ok..this is kinda confusing first you seemed like you weren't too interested in him because you kept ignoring the text messages he was sending you..to me it was obvious that he wanted to see you again and due to your own insecurity you thought he just wants a booty call!..seems like as soon as you seen him with another female that you thought was his gf then you wanted attention from him so you sent a text telling him bye...even if that was his gf you've prolly been giving the poor guy mixed signals so why even get mad at him...and im sure he was tellin you the truth when he said those we co-workers im sure he feels no obligation towards you since you guys aren't committed to eachother so cut him some slack if you like him show it more and if not leave him be..don't play games with his heart..this guy seems like he's a nice honest guy and he deserve's someone who's the same! good luck

2007-12-21 03:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Joy'Cee's Mom 2 · 0 0

OK he has a girlfriend who was with him there that is why he ignored you he went home with his girlfriend screwed her and then when she passed out he texted you back no way that he turned it off by accident he turned it off so that he wouldn't be interrupted doesnt' matter that he replied right away to your texts he could do that with his gf there he is an *** who like you said just wanted to use you for a booty call

2007-12-21 03:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Look I am going to keep this simple and to the point. This guy is a player and is bad news. Move on with your life, because it sounds like you deserve better than what this guy has to offer, which is nothing but drama and disrepect. Really leave him alone and find someone who has more class.

2007-12-21 02:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0 0

Sounds like a messy situation. I'd move on and avoid the dilemma

2007-12-21 02:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by sparkle 3 · 0 0

first of all why is this guy asking to only see you at night somethings not right and maybe you should only keep him as a friend and nothing else

2007-12-21 03:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Teresa 1 · 0 0

Personally, I wouldn't waste my time (no offense) But this but the guy sounds like he's scamming you... I would just try and let him down easy, tell him what he's doing to you, and kick him to the curb!

2007-12-21 02:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 0 0

This guy is dating and out plenty.

You are right - you are not a booty-call.
Tell him to take a hike.

2007-12-21 02:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Curly 6 · 0 0

He is soooooo not worth it!!

2007-12-21 02:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jane 3 · 0 0

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