Let's say you meet a girl that you really like but you find out that she has a child. Do you still date with her ?
(Assuming that you want a serious relationship , not just one night stand. )
2007-12-21 02:16:52 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you said guys only but i want to put a imput in please.. think about this before you do anything ,, the child see adults can have a relationship and get over it if it turns bad but child dont understand that, when a child meets you they become involved and love you from the first moment cause thats how they are,,,, and are you wanting to be a father figure because if you get into a relationship and it involves a child then thats what you become, if your thinking im in it for the long run and i can see myself as a daddy then go for it , but because you asked the ? makes me think you are not sure ...
2007-12-21 02:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you said guys only. But let me give you some incite. I am a mother of four teenage boys. My previous relationship was with a man my age (mid 30s') he had no children and had never been married. Everything started out fine. My boys like him he liked my boys. However after 10 months or so he really became annoyed at how much time the children took up. There was football, church activities, school meetings. He really did not know how extensive parenting was. It ultimately destroyed our relationship. I have good children (I know all mothers say that), they make good/okay grades, no drugs, no drinking, attend school regular, 2 of them all state footballers and 2 book worms. Not that Jesse was not a good man. He was. He was not however prepared for step parenting. All I am saying is be careful and be ready. Baby comes first before any man, and if the momma doesn't feel that way then she isn't worth having.
2007-12-21 02:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what that feels like. I just came out of a very long relationship and its like guys look at me different, i have a 10 month old baby boy and it's like there is no guy for me that would accept me for who I am and that i have a child. But I do think there is a Person for each and everyone of us out there, even if it takes a while to find him... So yea I do think there is a guy that will date a chick with a child!
2016-05-25 07:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an age old question. I probably speak for the majority of guys in this world and say maybe. A girl with a kid would not completely discourage me. However, it's a BIG negative. Not to say there is anything wrong with kids. But no guy wants to be with a girl for a long time or even get "married" to her. It's not really his son or daughter and the father will always be around. The women with a kid has to make up for it alot. So if your looking for anything serious, your gonna need to try hard. But there alot of guys who still "hit and run".
2007-12-21 02:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hello!
If a man is truly in love with a woman, he will accept the children just to be with her. Besides, the children will eventually grow up and move out of the house (hopefully) and then the relationship can continue on.
Finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is not all that easy. For a man to let go of a woman just because she has kids is a shame, he may be the one missing out on something great. Sure there would be challenges, but I think two adults who love each other can figure out something to make it work.................
2007-12-21 02:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would. I believe that when one dates a woman with children, one dates the entire family. If a guy doesn't want to be a stepfather, then he shouldn't data a woman who has a child.
2007-12-21 02:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Al F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. If I like a girl, a child would make no difference.
2007-12-21 02:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if I'm REALLY in love and she feels the same about me..
tough one but I have to say YES because one of my exes im still friendly with is a single mom and I wish I'd taken my chance when I had it. she LOSES guys because she " wants too much affection" shes a natural giver like I am but I wasn't ready for kids.
2007-12-21 02:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, if I was starting over, I'd want my own kids. If she was open to a "yours, mine, and ours" blended family, then I'd go for it. And of course you couldn't find that out on a first date, so, yeah, I'd date her. At least until we understood whether our long term goals were compatible or not.
2007-12-21 02:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by El Jefe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, if u r really into this gurl a kid should not matter as long as she knows the difference between u and the kids father but that should not matter if u want to score mega points with her take to the kid show her u r not just there for her
2007-12-21 02:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋