I was just engaged recently. I have many close friends, but I am really not sure that I want any bridesmaids. I kind of like the idea of just my HTB and me standing up there. Is this odd? Do we really need to have bridesmaids and groomsmen?
2007-12-21 01:48:21 · 25 answers · asked by Sharon 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That's perfectly fine. We're having a big wedding (150 guests) with no bridesmaids or groomsmen, and I think it will be lovely. Our whole theme is simple elegance. I like the idea of being there with just the groom and the officiant. It seems a little more intimate and personal that way.
Another factor is that the people we would have considered having as attendants each live far away and were not sure whether they would be able to even come to the wedding (most are!). My two best friends from grad school are currently in Florida and Canada. Flying to Texas for a wedding is expensive enough - adding bridesmaid expenses to that would be a too much. If either can come, I want them to be able to have fun and not stress over additional expenses.
I have seen a few other weddings that didn't have attendants, and they were lovely.
2007-12-21 02:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by SE 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi and congratulations!
You most certainly DO NOT need to have bridesmaids or groomsmen. There was another poster last night who said she is not having any. It it your choice. The only thing you need are 2 witnesses over the age of 18 to sign the marriage license. Those two individuals can be ANYONE who witnessed the marriage.
Good luck!
2007-12-21 20:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have a lot less hassle! Go for it. I think it'll be wonderful. Ask the parents to pick up some of the hosting duties the bridesmaids/groomsmen would normally do.
2007-12-21 11:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is your wedding and if you don't want bridesmaids and groomsmen you don't have to. You will however need at least a witness to sign the marriage license. Good Luck and Congrats.
2007-12-21 11:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by OFFICIALLY MRS. HOWARD! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need bridesmaids, a maid of honor, or anyone else, if you so choose. Just from my personal experience, it was great to have our friends up there with us, so take some time to think about it before you make a final decision.
2007-12-21 10:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to if you don't want to. we're not having bridesmaids or groomsmen, it's just going to be us and our daughters as flower girls/ring bearers. i'm extremely close to both my sisters and my best girlfriend, and i didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings about who's maid of honor and what order they're put in. also my wedding is small and informal, so i think it would be more intimate with just the four of us as a family.
2007-12-21 10:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need any attendants at your wedding but you do need to have two witnesses to sign the marriage certificate. Its your day so make it what you want. I rather like the idea of simplicity and keeping the focus on the most importatant people, the wedding couple. Besides, your friends will love not having to spend lots of money on a dress/tux that they will only wear once. They will be able to come to your wedding and spend more on your present! Congrats!
2007-12-21 09:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by Diane M 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your state requires two witnesses, you can still make plans for two of your good friends to sign the license. However, many states don't require signatures of witnesses.
One thought: When you're standing up, it's always nice to have a friend nearby to hold your bouquet when you are busy holding your groom's hands. Also, to straighten your train when you're reached the altar. It would look rather strange for someone from the audience to stand up and take care of those things. You might want to consider just one attendant for each of you. But,still ..... that's your choice because it's your wedding.
2007-12-21 10:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Woods 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to do anything you don't want to. It is your (you and your hubby's) day. I only had my best friend and my hubby's best man up there with us. It was nice to have someone to help me with my dress and hold my flowers/hubby's ring. We did have a couple guys for ushers since we had 250 guest. But just the four of us were up front together. Most people are so focus on the wedding day that they forget it is just a ceremony. It is the marriage that is what counts. Good luck with your plans.
2007-12-21 10:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by bigred 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If your wedding is such that it is going to be a lot of work to prepare for AND you can get bridemaids who actually pitch in and help you with the work, then by all means make room for one or two. If your candidates are such that they are just going to show up and look pretty, and generally create MORE work for you, then skip it. ESPECIALLY if there is going to friction over who gets picked and who doesn't, then skip it. Maybe have both sets of parents stand at the alter with you instead.
2007-12-21 10:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋