About a year ago i lost my sister. She was murdered and we did not put up a christmas tree. This year we put it up and i was wondering if it was okay to do that. I feel that we were okay in doing this but i feel sad that she isnt here to celebrate with us.
2007-12-21 01:44:53 · 13 answers · asked by sweetpea1215 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
yes...it is ok
place a special ornament for your loved one
do this every year
make it into your tradition
2007-12-21 15:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly, it is okay..she is with you all in spirit.
She is smiling upon you all....
You bring tears to my eyes.....
I lost 2 sons....my other children, then lost 2 brothers.
One was a Marine Corp Pilot, he was 24..his aircraft
went into the ocean, along with 2 other men....just like
in the movies where they come to your door....to tell you.
Your family also, got a shock.....my god in the worse way.
It's hard to pick up the pieces, and go on......however, every
day will be better. You are starting, and that's what she would want you all to do. Wouldn't you?
Why not buy a small lamp that you can put on a wall......
and a colored bulb, if you desire...like the ones on the
big Christmas tree lights.....red for Christmas....another color for each holiday.....and her favorite color for all other days...
That's what we did, and are still doing....that was 27 years ago......and you know, honestly, none of those bulbs have
burned out!! So, in a sence he is with you with the lamp,
however always in the heart.
Our other son, was only 9 months old. That was 46 years ago.
If it would give you some comfort...try it.
My best to you and your family.
2007-12-21 11:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine that you put up a Christmas tree. I am so sorry to hear about your sister. When you look at the tree try to remember all of the fun and good things that you did with your sister. I lost my husband a couple of years ago and I also put up a tree this year--it is sad but I am sure that your sister would want you to carry on with your life.
2007-12-21 01:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by jackie_jabar 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with putting up a Christmas tree after the death of a loved one...
Last week a co-worker died very unexpectedly. Was only 46 and died in his sleep.
Left behind 15 yr old twin boys. The mother passed away unexpectedly last year.
Their Christmas tree was in a shed and the boys uncle couldn't find the key. As soon as he mentioned their dilemma we made sure everything was provided so the boys would have a tree.
When I was there last night admiring how they had decorated that tree it NEVER even occurred to me that it was inappropriate for them to put it up only a WEEK after the Dad died...
The Christmas tree is about hope for the future and a joy that our savior was born to make our hope a reality...
2007-12-21 07:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by Dawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry about your sister. i do believe it's okay for you to put up your Christmas tree. and it's natural to feel sad about your sister not being here to help celebrate. i lost my parents my dad 10 years ago and my mom 5 years ago. i was only in my 30's and i still miss my parents everyday of my life and especially around the holidays especially Christmas. so why not this year celebrate the life you had with your sister. you'll laugh and you'll cry and that's okay.she may not be here with you in person but she is with you in spirit... she lives in your heart and everyone she has touched. God bless and Merry Christmas.
2007-12-21 02:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by yak4the8car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if U want to. Your faith is more important now And a Christmas tree is a celebration of the birth of baby Jesus
2007-12-21 02:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your lose honey. Yes it is alright to put up your tree. I just lost my beloved sister-in-law a few weeks ago and I've put up my tree. Why you may ask, well I knew her well and she wouldn't want us not to put it up. I have the dove from one of the flower arrangements and it joins all the other doves of my lost loved ones on my tree. I feel that they are with me in spirit with my doves on my tree.
2007-12-21 07:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is OK to feel sad about your sister, i know how you feel i lost my grandad about the same time, but you cant stop your life. mourning is natural but you should always remember the happy times you shared with her and that shes in a better place now. putting up a tree every year could be your way to remember her and honor her. just remember she wouldn't want you to stop enjoying yourself just because she isn't with you anymore
2007-12-21 02:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by livin 4 now 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do whatever your heart pleases.
You are probably going to have mixed feelings.
Go easy on yourself. Don't judge yourself.
Do what you need to do to take care of your feelings and wishes.
It does not matter what other people think is right.
You know in your heart what is right for you.
I hope this will be a peaceful Christmas for you and your family.
2007-12-21 07:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Use this time to celebrate her life, not her death.
Besides, I wouldn't think your sister would want you to stop living, laughing and loving just because she's not here to share it with you.
Honor her life, the times you shared and the laughs you had together during this holiday season.
2007-12-21 02:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by justceleste 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you but one thing have nothing to do with the other. Remember life have to go on and if you could ask her she will tell you the same. Remember her as she was alive... the good things is that you spend with her good times when she was alive don't jeopardize your life or others. Merry Christmas !!
2007-12-21 01:55:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋