Do you think it's ok to ...?

Question

keep my last name for work purposes? I mean....well im not a stripper or exotic dancer by any means lol (but with a name like mine you never know lol)

I dunno im a database specialist and everyone knows me by Devine and it's in my work email and all that..plus we have image signatures in our email ...

now i know i could get a new email and have a new image made...but do you think it's ok that i keep my last name for this purpose only? In my social life go by Chesney Hubbell?

bubbas, if i have children, they'll get hubbell, and i'll be known as hubbell outside of work but i kind of wanted to keep Devine for work only

oh im obviously going to change it 'legally' for work but i want to go by my maiden name at work, my checks will have my new last name.

SE Shoot me an email :)

Answer 1

Chesney:

Sure....why not? My sister did the same exact thing. She kept her maiden name for work, although it's legally changed to her married name. But she has been published, etc. under her maiden name so she kept it for work.

Answer 2

No matter how much your TITLE may become Mrs Chesney Hubbell, your NAME remains Lucious Devine unless you take steps to actually change it. Go about this like a statistician. Chance are about 100% that you expect to work for the next 40 years or longer. What are the chances that in the next 40 years, your husband (and heaven forbid, but things change) won't die, won't leave you, won't be left by you, etc? The chances are certainly much less than 100%. I'd bet on the sure thing and keep the same professional name throughout your professional life.

Answer 3

Sure, many professional women do it all the time. On the computer you are known as Chesney Devine, To your work co-workers you are either Chesney Devine or Chesney Devine Hubbell, and to your friends, they'll have to get used to you as Chesney Hubbell. It sounds complicated, but it is not.

Good luck!

Answer 4

for work, you can always use a hyphen. Devine-Hubbell. Or when you go to change your name after the wedding, you can have Divine be your middle legally. A lot of woman do that, that is what I am going to be doing. So, you can use your full name for work, "Jane" Devine Hubbell, and for everything else!

Answer 5

Sounds like you're not willing to let go of "Devine". If that's the case, consider keeping your name and adding on his (which is what I'm doing).

Example:
My name is Jane Ann Doe, and HTBs name is John Will Smith. When we get married, I'll take his name and be Jane Ann Doe Smith. I'll go by Mrs. Smith and our kids will be Smiths...does that make sense?

You can also drop your middle name if you don't like it, making your maiden name your new middle name (which would work, since Devine's such a rad name)

Of course everyone knows you by Devine....that's the only name you've had until now! lol. Changing the name is scary, and it does feel like you're losing a part of yourself, but you're getting married and gaining so much more! Talk to the future hubby about this, maybe he can give you his thoughts.

Good luck :)

Answer 6

Chesney,

Keep Devine for professional purposes, and Hubbell outside of work.

Had I not moved overseas and continued to work in Chicago, I would have kept my maiden name for professional purposes, but used my husband´s name outside of work.

I would love the last name Devine-you are devine!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

uhh it's really not a big deal. if you are getting married people will understand if your name changes, so it won't be some big shocker. you can always send out an email to your co-workers and any other work contacts and let you know that Jane Doe is now Jane Smith.

it's pretty easy for your tech department to change your email address and create a new image signature. they have to do it for new employees I'm sure.

I think you're stressing out over something that's really not a big deal at all. if it's just a matter of the technology and what you perceive as a convenience to others.

Answer 8

You should use whatever name is on your liscense and social security. If it's devine then use that in and out of work, if its hubbell use that. Signing a name that isnt technically yours (in the eyes of the government) is a felony. Ask a local police officer about it, he/she can give you the exact laws in your area.

Answer 9

I know two women who tried this and it caused so many problems that they both eventually went to their married names. Their paychecks and expense account checks were in one name, but bank accounts in another. If they left a work number for the doctor to return a call, or the neighbor to call in case of emergency, the caller knew them by one name and the person answering the phone knew them by another (it was okay when the woman answered the phone herself, but created confusion when a voice mail message with a different name came on, or when a co-worker took the call). I think you'll find it much easier to pick one name or the other and use the same name for everything.

Answer 10

Its fine to do that and many women do - including me.As a professional, I got my reputation with my maiden name. It is on all my business literature etc and it would be confusing and expensive to make changes. Since I own the company it would have an effect on my business to suddenly expect clients to recognize a communication as being from me if I used a new name. I have no problems using different names in business and social circles.

Answer 11

So many people know me by my maiden name at work that I have decided to keep it. I also have a lot of documents published with my maiden name and I don't see the point in having to change all of them. I think that it's perfectly acceptable, and I haven't had any problems with it.