is it always possible for a good christan to forgive?

Question

if ytou call youself a good christan-------then you really should forgive everyone who does you wrong?

Answer 1

Yeah. When God is with you, anything is possible.

Answer 2

Apart from Jesus, we can not do anything good. That includes forgiveness. Ask the Lord to help you forgive. Say outloud that you forgive the person in prayer. Forgiving does not mean that you will forget, or that you won't have hurts over what happened. Getting over hurts takes time and the person earning your trust. Forgiving just means that you don't hold their act against them anymore. That means we don't punish the person anymore. You should always be careful with all people with all things. That's only wisdom. But we all make mistakes and God forgives us. When God forgives us, He no longer will punish us. It doesn't mean He has forgotten what we did. Fortunately for God, His feelings mend when we ask for forgiveness. As long as we remain in these imperfect bodies, it just takes longer to get over the emotional hurt part. God bless!

Answer 3

Hi Sally,

You are right. Every idea looks good on paper. In real life, however, things are not always so clearly defined, so black-and-white.

To err is human, to forgive is divine. Well, I don't know any divine people. People have flaws and short-comings. I think we, as Christians, have the responsibility to forgive, but the human side of us often makes it difficult to release the aggression or hurt and completely forget.

Not sure if I answered your question.

Answer 4

in my opinion it really depends on how strong u believe how much faith u really have and how big of a problem it is that u are questioning forgiveness.

i think most people believe that they have fully forgiven someone for something but it always is there at the back of ur mind. as the old saying goes ' will always forgive but will never forget'

i think that u can truly say that u have fully forgiven another when the error/fault is no longer playin on ur mind and u no longer feel the need to bring it up. that goes for all people not just christian.

i was raised as a 'Wheel Barrow Baptist'. that means i only go to church when im pushed. my family didnt have any religious path, but that doesnt mean we dont have morals!

Answer 5

Jesus did tell us to forgive 7 times 70 times, that's a lot of times! But it's not that simple. Forgiving isn't a feeling, it's a choice. Every time you think of them, anger may well up inside of you, but forgiveness it to choose not to dwell on it. That doesn't mean that you have to allow them to hurt you again: a wife who is beaten by her husband doesn't have to keep living with him even though he continues to beat her. If she chooses to forgive him, that won't mean that she has to trust him; trust is something that he'll have to earn. Slowly. But she can also pity him for the weakness, the sadness, and the lack of self-respect that has caused, and results from, his violence. Unless they're a psychopath, they'll know that what they did was wrong, and that can often be the cause of repeating the sin because the person they hurt is a reminder of their guilt, so they want to hurt them, because actually dealing with their guilt directly is too difficult or painful, and its something that they've learned to ignore and pass over as though it wasn't there. Not allowing them to hurt you can even be a good thing for them, if they let it be, becuse they have to find a way of re-directing their hurt/anger or else they have to deal with it. Deep down, people who hurt others often have bigger problems than those they hurt, though they may be causing those people to inherit the same hurts as they had themselves.

Of course, understanding where they're coming from and why they choose to hurt you may also involve an admission of your own guilt. None of us are perfect, and friendships or relationships that go sour usually involve mutual guilt. It may have been a casual dismissal of a serious concern, or defensive anger when calm repentant humility was called for. It may well not have been deliberate, but usually responsibility lies in both camps, even if it is primarily in one rather than the other.

Repenting of one's own mistakes usually leaves more room for real forgiveness of others, because it shows us that not to extend the same mercy as that which God has freely given us would be hypocritical.

All that to say that yes, we do, but allowing yourself to become a victim won't help either of you, and walking away with a forgiving heart might be the best thing that you can do, although you should first examine your own heart for injustices that it has perpetrated against them.

Answer 6

I think , a true Christian should practise forgiving the erring ones.That's why a real christian is different from others and they are loved and respected by all.At times, forgiving someone who does any wrong to you, is difficult, but, I think , it's not impossible.

Answer 7

you can forgive everyone, i forgayve the guy who sold me a bar and left and it got taken away from me, i forgave my farther for the things he did and didnt do. Just remeber one thing. If you dont forgive, why should god forgive you?

Answer 8

Yes...as a Christian, you must forgive. It says in the bible if you don't forgive then he won't forgive you!

Answer 9

Yes. But no one said that you have to forget.