Everyone always tells me that 'time is the best cure for a broken heart'.
It's been over half a year since my bf of 5 and a half years broke up with me - we broke up because we had too many petty arguments. And since the breakup, everyday has been such a struggle for me.
Everytime I think about it it makes me really depressed and just knowing that we'd never get back together again makes me hurt even more, as I've discussed my feelings with him before.
What can I do about it?
Thank you to everyone who takes time to read this
2007-12-21 00:40:14 · 7 answers · asked by Sky High 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time heals all things if you allow it. Many, many years ago I was married to my frst husband. I was much in love with him. When we finaly broke up over another woman I was devastated. It took me about 3 years to get over it.
The only way I was able to do that was to be willing to just let it go. Once I gave up the idea of believing we would work things out I started to heal.
I ddn't find going out with other guys to be the answer. Why? Because I kept looking for that exact replacement for the ex. That aways ended in dissaster. Never consider a new romance till you have been abe to deal with the lost of the first.
Since my ex and I went our ways I have had boyfriends. They usualy ended not because I wanted them to. It was the choice of the partner. Each time it hurt but not as bad as it happening wth you and one you are married too.
The way I learned to heal was this:................Every time I would get into thought about my lost relation ship I would hurry (before it consumed me) and change my thought pattern to something more pleasant. Even if it were a pleasant thought of child hood or something. I would also put the muscles to work with exercise or house work f I weren't already at work. And I would never eat at that moment even if it were lunch break at work. I would take a walk instead. I found that eating during that time woud for some reason intensify the depression that I was experiencing.
You have to also make plans for your self that totally would eliminate him. Don't even let him come to mind when making the plans. The plans could be thinking of renovating your wardrobe, especialy if it is over laden with things that were special to him.........Get a new hair cut or style. Or let your hair grow. Just make yourself look better or different than when you were together.
2007-12-21 00:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Time is the answer but it only works if you let it. If you choose to cling to the situation and keep letting it get to you, then you can choose to be depressed over it the rest of your life.
You've got to WANT to move on and let the old relationship go...you can bet he's not sitting around moping over 6 months later.
Don't let someone rent space in your head or heart for free. Keep the good memories but accept that it's over, and it's time to move on.
How many good prospects have you overlooked while you've been pining over the past? This life is too short to waste a minute of it...move forward and make your life great!
2007-12-21 00:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a long period u were in this relationship, it must have been hard breaking up, and it's harder to get over it. Best cure along with time, u need to do someting during this passing time, go out, have fun, gain confidence in urself, have a makeover, date again, go to clubs, party, enjoy, see other people, remeber what u hated most about him and say u r better off without him!!! and trust me u will be fine, just use ur time for getting over him.
2007-12-21 00:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No time isn't the answer. I broke up with my fiance 17 years ago and still think of him. I sometimes wonder what it would have been like if we stayed together and got married. I know where he lives now, how many kids he has, and who he married. I still talk about things we did together and still miss them. If you truly loved him then you will never really move on. You will have a place in your heart forever named "Tom" or whatever his name was.
2007-12-21 00:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by calendargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read, develpe hobbies or interest to take your mind off
of him. try going places where you will meet a nice man.
rememeber, there is a reason for the breakup.
2007-12-21 00:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried going out with other guys? Sorry, there is no magic cure.
2007-12-21 00:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by remowlms 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get all that out of your head. You need to occupy your thoughts and actions in other positive ways. Whatever it takes, make yourself make the changes.........
2007-12-21 00:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋