well ma boyfriend came to my house and he said alot of stuff first of all he said that he heard a lot of bad things bout me he wouldnt tell me who but i know dat it was his ex cuz he talked 2 her yesterady but i didnt said anything and well he was all red n said a lot of stuff 1st he said that he dont like sum stuff bout me n he also said 2 me if i really loved him n of course i felt so sad but the thing that hurt me more was that he said that he was gonna breack up with me but he said he could that he loves me a lot n that he cant break up with me and well i dont know wut to do should i be the one 2 break up with him before i get hurt or try to forget bout this and be happy with him or jus try to talk to him but i dont know plz help he said he really loved me but after everything he said i dont know wut to do im confused n sad n worried i dont know wut to think right now i really loved him but wut should b the best thing 2 do plz help
NEED SUM REAL ADVICE WITH LOTS OF DETAILS HELP!!!
2007-12-21 00:27:13 · 6 answers · asked by S3Xy_B!TcH 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him space as his ex is probably trying her level best that he breaks up from you-these things happen, and in case he really loves you, he will get over it sooner than you think and will be back with you. Relationships involving ex's do get strained especially when the contact has not been snapped with ex permanently.Would advise you to keep your cool and talk to him after he has slept over it.Perspectives change overnight, if you understand what I mean.Don't worry, its a passing phase and you two should be together by the morrow!
2007-12-21 00:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by cool dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you were not specific about what was said so I will try my best to help you. If you really care for him you can go with the flow of the relationship just keep a small guard up just in case. Me personally I would not want a guy who listens to his ex for advice on his current relationship. Why would he believe what his EX! have to say about you of coarse she will not have anything good to say about you. Naturally there are things that a partner will dislike about you and you I am sure dislike things about him but that is where compromise comes into place in a relationship. You are suppose to love a person despite there flaws. You need to do what is best for you. Whether you end it now or he ends it later you will feel some pain it just depends on when you want to feel this pain.
2007-12-21 08:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is in the same situation as his ex was
he's getting riled up
his ex used to be jealous over lies
now he's getting mad over lies
tell him that he should trust you
you sound too passive
being passive is fine if your man is a very good one
but he doesn't trust you and lack of mistrust
-ESPECIALLY because of an ex girlfriend
is really messed up
you should tell him that your relationship should involve trust because you trusted him and now he's going up and talking to his exgirlfriend who he OBVIOUSLY BROKE UP WITH FOR A REASON!
tell him that if he loves you, he should respect you and trust you over that other girl
you know what you should do to get him to shut his mouth and think?
Be like, "how come you're going by what your ex girlfriend says instead of me?! Do you love her more than me or something? If you really did love me then you should trust me because it should be obvious that I love you! my actions speak louder than her words. What have I done to make you believe that what she says could even have a CHANCE of being true?!"
2007-12-21 18:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Yuri ^_^ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't u ask him what was all that about and why?
he has details, let him speak them out, he knows things, let him share these "hearsays" with you, and then there must be winesses or profs or whatever, he just can't come in on u and be so mean to uall ashouting and saying bad words then say he won't break up with you cz he loves you. u tell him either to let you know what's going on or U r going to break up with him, cz u don't want his love when u haven't got his trust and respect!!! u need to know the truth!!
2007-12-21 08:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all there is the issue of trust. he elected to believe
untrue things about you without even giving you the benefit
of the doubt.
you may want to have one talk with him and try to resolve
all outstanding issues.
i personally would suggest dropping him. i got a feeling
he is the one who is not trustworthy and you may get
hurt staying involved with him.there maybe a lot of bad things
about him that you don,t know.
2007-12-21 08:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question is "Should I break up with him?". If I'm correct...and this is just my opinion... you should break up with him. You obviously don't know how you feel about him and he's in the same spot. Walk away and keep your head up! Good luck!
2007-12-21 08:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋