Please I need help, I want to know your opinion. I am from a asian culture and we are kinda conservative and sensitive as well compare to western culture. My 2nd husband is from western culture...Do you think it is just ok if he suggested or he buy bra or underwear for my daughters? Tho I said no, i didnt tell him the reason why. I think that is not ok.
2007-12-20 23:34:50 · 15 answers · asked by ORIN C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
he is working overseas and coming back for vacation. So he is buying presents for christmas. Tho i trust him, i am still careful and watching out. and i always give direct instructions to my children to be careful. I love the guy but nowadays we cant tell. My daughters are grown ups.
2007-12-21 00:09:27 · update #1
Well - in a practical sense.....maybe they need new bras and underwear! If he had suggested it for your son would it have been different?
Seriously - it's underwear....he didn't say "let's run out and get the girls sexy lingerie"!
Honestly - let's not prude up over a simple suggestion! My daughter actually put bras and underwear on her christmas list......my husband looked at the list and looked at me and said "she can have 'em, but hell if I know how to buy them!|"
I ended up making the purchases - but he was with me....nothing "icky" about that. Simply fulfilling a practical Christmas request.
2007-12-21 00:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by Susie D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. This is a tough one. How old are the daughters?
While I do know of men who have suggested such in the past, I know them very, very well and there was nothing underlying. They were just being silly, boneheaded, country folk.
BUT....
I cannot say that in all cases that this would be appropriate.
Ask him why he wants to get them panties and bras. After all, these are your daughters.
2007-12-20 23:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by KE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
now not quite, no. mothers and fathers won't extremely comprehend take their infant being given underclothes, by somebody who isn't heavily relating to the newborn. Like an added answerer suggested, the nursery ought to have been specializing in hygiene, even although even then, the nursery ought to have advised the mothers and fathers previously. additionally, in nursery, they don't tend to flow into inner maximum hygiene too lots, besides straight forward innovations of bathing and the cost of washing hands until eventually now than ingesting/after touching something grimy.
2016-10-02 05:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the child need new underwear or bra's? Perhaps he was being practical. I think its not so good for him to buy these things but to suggest that she may need some is not so bad.
2007-12-20 23:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he's doing it to help them, like if you're not able to, then I suppose it would be okay, though if I was her, I would feel uncomfortable with it. Just explain to him that it's a bonding exercise for you and your daughters, and it woudl be nice for you to do this together. I would have been mortified if my father had taken me bra shopping!
2007-12-21 00:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by English Rose (due 2nd May) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he didn't mean anything innappropriate. It's underwear. People seem to get so uptight over everything these days. Now if he were to say'"Go try em on and let us have a looksie", then that would be ookie...
2007-12-21 00:05:28 · answer #6 · answered by zen 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No it is not.
If your new hubby is suggesting this, you need to keep a close eye on him. I hate to sound cynical, but lots of men marry women who already have children for the sole purpose of getting close access for grooming the children. Please do not leave him alone with them, dont let him bath them and trust your instincts.
2007-12-21 01:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by dancing queen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send a man out to buy a bra no matter what the relationship ('cos he would probably get wrong size or design)
If your daughters are teenagers they may not be comfortable thinking that he bought their underware, if they were little kids it wouldn't matter.
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Glad to hear your kids are adults and know to look after themselves. :-)
If he really wants to buy something like that you could suggest he gets them pyjamas- not as intimate as underwear and easier to buy.
2007-12-20 23:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by Exodus 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
No. Underwear is a very personal item and should not be purchased by a stepfather.
2007-12-21 00:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well it just depends on the situation, if your daughter is 17 and running around without a bra i think it's ok.
2007-12-20 23:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋