My first boyfriend never wanted to be close to me and it made me feel unattractive and unwanted. I later found out he was gay. Boyfriend #2 was a virgin and he was like dating my brother. He would kiss me but that was it. I’m 25 and I still attract guys who have very little relationship experience. They seem to really like me and want to be in a relationship but are afraid to touch me. What is the point of asking for a relationship if you only want to have a friendship? Maybe guys like that just want to take it slow but it just seems cold to me. I am hurt by the lack of affection and I desire a more intimate relationship. I feel bad about this a lot. I feel very unattractive because my boyfriends wouldn’t touch me. Sometimes it ruins my confidence when I do meet new people. How can I overcome the feeling of failure with these non-relationships that I've had?
No offense to virgin guys, this is about wanting to feel special. I want someone to really care and be attracted to me.
2007-12-20 22:18:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was with boyfriend #1 for 9 months and boyfriend #2 for a year. In both relationships I felt that things went wrong after about 6 months. Looking back on it, I didn't have that much in common with either of them. We had different interests. There was no romance but there was never a lot to talk about so there wasn't much of a friendship either. I am a shy geek myself so I don't approach guys and I really want one who is bold enough to do all the asking. I don't mind waiting for a great guy, I just don't want to waste any more time on guys who don't want to be with me!
My younger sister is always in a relationship and has been having sex since a very young age. I always compare myself to her because we're opposites. I feel lonely sometimes when I start to wonder if people like her are getting more enjoyment out of life.
2007-12-27 19:47:54 · update #1
Look girl, you just had a streak of bad luck and met a virgin wimp. This guy was probably a virgin because of his shyness.
You need to know what kind of man you exactly want , then you need to be in places where they are concentrated at.
I didnt take your virgin point to heart because im staying a virgin till marriage anyways. You cant give up and you need to start joining groups where good guys are at.
2007-12-26 18:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by virgin guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well could be a few things maybe you are attracting good guys that are overly religious or believe in waiting till marriage or something. Or maybe you are not putting out the signals that say you want to do more. How fast are you expecting things to move? I mean if your expecting it int he first week or so not all guys are going to try to be like that, but if months are going by yeah id say there is a problem. I am 32 and when i date someone i try to be respectful but if I'm attracted to them then heck yeah I'm going to want to cuddle and be close but I am also told i can be overly affectionate. Anyway if you would like to talk more about it or give me more of a time frame of where you think things are going wrong feel free to write me. Good luck but im sure you will find what your looking for eventually. I knwo i keep holdong out hope that i will. lol
2007-12-20 22:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by tonice248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me you're attracting guys that really want to go out with their mothers ... a safe warm relationship without any of the hassles of committment ... hang in there though ... Mr Right will come along eventually :)
2007-12-20 22:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jack K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your that kind of girl that men always respect you. or you just happen to have a neighborhood that is full of geeky guys that dont know themselves. there are plenty of guys out there who you might like. just look for him and at least unleash what you want on a guy. or demand what you want from them since your 25 which means your ready for anything to happen. just don't be desperate.
2007-12-20 22:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend says tht just coz they dont touch u doesnt mean ur not attractive
I say , ur not a teenager with raging hormones, need to be touched n all, get over it, take some time and u'll be more than touched ll over
2007-12-20 22:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by Vio K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you are rushing into things and need to slow down and let the guys show you who they are , then move to the next level
2007-12-20 22:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well give me a call and i will help you out with it,im lonely and have relationship experience.
2007-12-20 22:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by mr. y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your lucky
2007-12-20 22:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋