will i ever be able to trust a guy again?

Question

over the summer i was with this guy who im pretty sure i was in love with. if you answer this question i dont want to hear move on because thats what iv been trying to do for the last 3 months its the hardest thing to do ever. i just want to know how long its going to take me to get over him. im ready to move on but i cant seem to trust anyone . im scared im going to get hurt again and be right where i left

Answer 1

We all carry around the baggage of our own past relationships. Chances are that you'll never be able to place such innocent trust in someone again. That doesn't mean that you won't be able to trust anyone, but it will be different and that's a good thing. It's part of growth and maturing.

Answer 2

i understand that you're scared of being hurt again, that's natural. you're mourning a loss, and it will take as long as it takes, honestly. for me, it usually takes about a year or so before i feel ready to move on. but that's just me, it's different for everyone.

being in love and losing the relationship does change you. you're a little wiser now, hopefully. try to remember the good things in the relationship, and even though it didn't ultimately work out, that doesn't mean there weren't still good moments and it doesn't mean the relationship was a "waste". you learned and grew from it, and you're learning and growing in the process of healing from it. hopefully in your next relationship, the lessons you have learned can be applied to make things go better in the future.

in the future, you're always going to know what it's like to be in love and lose that love. it will have to be a decision on your part to set that aside and try again, because that's the only way to experience love is to take that risk every time. but that doesn't mean you need to rush right back into the fray; take whatever time you feel like you need before you are ready to let a new person in.

best wishes to you.

Answer 3

Time is the greatest healer, only 3 months? you must admit you feel less for him than you did 3 months ago, dont fall for anyone until your 100% sure, hold your head up high my girl be proud of yourself and dont let anyone upset you. take charge and not let him see that it bothers you. Do you really think he cares? nope, but you are obviously the one that got hurt, yes i am telling to to move on, the more you you think about it the more upset you will be. Yes you will be scared of getting hurt but thats what life's all about, finding the person for you. imagine if you never met this guy would you still be upset? no, plenty more fish in the sea.

Answer 4

I would probably take your fears to mean that you are not quite ready for a new relationship yet. It takes time to get over these type of things, and there is really no need to rush it. Three months is really not that long... focus on yourself and doing things that make you feel good... volunteer somewhere, buy something nice for yourself, talk to your friends. Your trust will come back slowly, don't rush it.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

That's the hardest part about it, trust. You can't have a good relationship without trust. But then again Loving someone means giving someone your heart, and trusting them not to break it. I'm soo sorry that I can't give you anymore advice then to just give your heart time to mend, don't worry about later on, fix whatever you can now, your great person will wait

Answer 7

well i was in your shoes once because the girl i was with truned around and was lying to me and what not but it took me a while to get over her what suggest to you is this try and write poems that reminds you of the good and not bad and yes you will be able to trust guys again because i thought i couldnt trust any girl again and i wasnt sure how i could handle being alone but my poems i write on how i feel

Answer 8

You have to let go of what you can not change.

Trust comes from time together.

Also do not put the next person in the same category as your last.
Trust comes from within.

Good Luck
CJ

Answer 9

everyone is scared to move on, everyone once broken finds it hard to believe and trust again, start of slowly and if he moves too fast tell him to slow it on down and if he don't listen. It wasn't meant to be.
There are people out there you can trust its just a matter of weeding out the bad ones first and then moving on to the roses.

Answer 10

Look honey, everything is going to be alright. There is someone else out there for you who you will feel even better with! You may be down for a little while, but you will be right back on your feet. Good Luck!!!