my boyfriend says i'm childish because i want the house clean + tidy all the time. do you agree with this?

Question

i keep telling him to pick up after himself (he is by nature a slob). he says its stupid to get stressed by a few things left lying around. it's my house but he stays there a lot

Answer 1

It's not at all childish to want a tidy house - I like to keep mine tidy because you never know when visitors may come, apart from anything else. It's natural to be 'house proud', and if your boyfriend owns or part owns the house then he should take a bit more pride in keeping it nice too.
Plus, anything dropped or chucked down has to be picked up sooner or later, so why not put it away properly to start with.

Answer 2

Ha this is rich. Your boyfriend thinks you're childish because you like your place clean. Well, if I was in your shoes, I would kick him out the next time he tries to make a mess in your house. Not only that cleanliness isn't a childish reaction, it's actually a great attribute that many people would like to have. So be proud of your cleanliness, and don't let other people, not even your boyfriend, tell you anything about it.

Answer 3

Theres a difference in being tidy and obsessive.My dad has OCD and i have learned to live with it,if one thing is out of place it starts him moaning,everything has got a place and is in some kind of order in our house.Its nice to have a tidy house and know where everything is,i dont think its the tidyness your boyfriend will be bothered about he probably likes it tidy too it will just be you moaning about keeping it tidy,stop washing his clothes etc and he will soon start tidying up after himself.Most men are slobs im afraid hunny

Answer 4

there is a big difference between obsession and just wanting the house to be clean and tidy. Nothing wrong with a few things around the house, but nobody wants to live in a pigsty. Nothing at all wrong in wanting a clean and tidy house.

Answer 5

iam married my self and it seems all men do that. My husband leaves things lying all around and when you try to speak he will not answer you or he will say just leave them where they are why are you worring as if hey are yours. But as a woman i will not go to sleep leaving things like that. What you should know is that most women are smart and the opposite is true for men. In marrige one's weakness should be one's strength. So my friend be sure the house is clean all the time and accept it otherwise it will create walls in the house. Good luck

Answer 6

I think your boyfriend is being childish! Its your house you do want you want with it.
Would he rather you didn't do any house work and live like animals or would he rather you were cival and higenic?
My sisters is a total clean freak, she is always cleaning or polishing something and she sometimes naggs if i dont put a crisp packet in the bin, but so what, its her house and its the way she is so I just have to deal with it. And anyway I cant moan cos the more she does the less there is for me.! If your fella cant handle it tell him to make his mess elsewhere!
Good Luck Girl !!

Answer 7

Well a few things left lying around would soon turn into a mountain of things lying around. You are not childish for making him pick up after himself, and you should tell him that.

Answer 8

How many children do you know who're clean and tidy all the time? He's an idiot and a slob. I'll bet he doesn't pay his way either. Give yourself the best Christmas present you could. Show him the door.

Answer 9

yes normally but it depends on whether you not only want it tidying but are obsessive about it. If you jump up and get the hoover out because there is a bit of lint on the floor then maybe you are going overboard. If you just want things taken care of when finished with them then he is prolly just a slob(there are a few of them about)

Answer 10

if this is a serious/long-term relationship, then you have what's called a problem. there are a few options available to you. you can eat his slobbish ways. when you get involved w/someone, there are certain irritating aspects of their personality/behavior that you have to just accept. you have to ask yourself if his being a slob is one of these things. if it isn't, then you don't have much of a future as a couple.

another option is to have a mutually respectful, intelligent, and open conversation/dialogue about the expectations either person has in the relationship. again, if there are any major discrepancies that the 2 of you do not seem to be able to agree to disagree on, your relationship may be doomed.

one last option is to just be a hard a** and just harass the crap out of him. he'll likely get angry/irritated. maybe then he will leave and you won't have to worry about his slovenly ways. that will give you a great opportunity to meet someone who knows how to respect cleanliness and order.

i can personally relate to your situation as my wife of 9 years is quite sloppy. although i address big picture messes, i've kind of adapted to her ways because of the value i place on our long-term relationship. i've actually become somewhat less ordered myself. this can be good for me sometimes, because i am actually quite anal about order and things being where they belong all the time...

hope you 2 work this out 1 way or the other...