My dad hates my bf. My bf hates my dad. The reason my dad hates him is because my dad is obsessed with money. When my bf wasn't working my father constantly herassed him about it. While I wasn't trippin supporting my bf, my father instisted that he was a free loader and what not.
When the bf left me, my dad gloated about it though I was heart broken, and rubbed it in my face as often as possable.
Now bf and I are in peace talks and want to work on our relationship. I really don't care what my dad says, I wan't to be with my bf (im 24 by the way. Far to old for daddy to be controlling me i think.) Is there anyway to mend thier rift or should I just keep them apart?
Any dads out there want to give me advice on this one?
2007-12-18 23:08:07 · 7 answers · asked by stygean666 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I must contest I know my father well and he is obsessed with money. (He herasses all my roommates.) I failed to mention then my bf was jobless only a month before my father began calling him and I both numerous times a day. "he get a job yet?" " You got job yet?" I know if it was me, I would have left me too. My dad let me stay in a relationship with a guy that beat me, but I cant be with a guy that has been out of a job for a month?
A little history on my dad: Dad was was jobless drunk bum before meeting my mother who suported him most of the 25 years they were together. He's pushing 60 and has only gotten his act together in the last 5 years. I think the underlying problem, perhaps is that he doesn't want to see me turn in to my mother?
2007-12-19 03:13:35 · update #1
my dad was the same with my sister and her bf (whom she married )it was because he didnt think anyone was good enough for his daughter.
your father will either have to accept that hes the one youlike or daddy will have to stop seeing you ,its his choice.
2007-12-18 23:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by me m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a father and I can see your fathers concern. How long were you supporting this guy for? He is just concerned about your well being. We dont expect our little girls to grow up and support a jobless bum. I wouldnt like a guy like that either. As far as mending the rift between them, I am sure it can be done over time. Provided that your b/f get his act together and starts showing some promise with his life and can hold a decent steady job and not use you as financial support. Good luck.
2007-12-19 07:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by puglyparker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there a reason why your bf is not working, because i'm sure your father just wants the best for you. What dad wants to see their daughter taking care of another man??? Your bf should want to prove to your father that he is capable of pulling his weight, especially if yall are planning to spend a lifetime and eventually raise a family together. I dont feel your father is in the wrong. Maybe he is not going about it in the most civilized way but his intentions are clear. I'm sure if your bf would step his game up and get a job, etc. your father would be willing to give him a chance.
2007-12-19 07:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Real Talk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not a dad and im not a mum. im only 18 but i hope this advice is good for you. i believe that in time your dad will overcome this stupidity controlling role, and may start to like your boyfriend if he see's that he's making you happy and can support you. your right you are too old for daddy to be controlling you. you need to start living your life on your own with your boyfriend. your dad will always be there for you no matter what and he's only doing this tool ook out for your well being hun. my dad was the same when i first started going out with my boyfriend and weve been together for nearly 2yrs now and my dads seemed to have backed of abit now. so im sure dad will grow out of it soon don't worry. good luck darling.
2007-12-19 07:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Suzie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad isn't obsessed with money, he thinks you are worth more than to be involved with a grown man who doesn't work consistently. If your b/f was really looking out for you, like your dad is, he would be working as much as he can and he'd be smart enough to get along with your father like a grown man would. Your b/f sounds like he acts like a teenager, maybe that's your dad's problem with him.
2007-12-19 08:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad only wants the very best for his little girl. your dad is a working man and believes in making your own way in life. he only wants you to be with a man who can support you, not you support him. him throwing it in your face is his way of reminding you that he wants the best for you. im not saying that its right but he loves you.
2007-12-19 08:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should care more about you dad more than your bf because i bet you when you were young who took care of you and loved you wasn't it your dad.
2007-12-19 07:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by Elie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋