My husband's cousin brother is planning to come and stay with us. My husband goes on night shifts and long shifts often. We are just married for 1 year and I need privacy. I don't like my husband's cousin coming over to our house. Am I wrong in this issue? I am 23 years old, my husband is 29 and his brother is 27.
2007-12-18 21:51:00 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I hardly know him. He is planning to stay for 3 months but I don't feel comfortable.
2007-12-18 22:00:34 · update #1
Spoke to my husband about this and fought. No use. He has booked tickets and will be here on Jan 17.
2007-12-18 22:01:38 · update #2
NO Way your not wrong. You deserve your privacy. Your still newly weds for goodness sake. Maybe your husband will realize his mistake soon after the new guy moves in and he'll find another option for that other dude. Good luck!! That's a difficult position. Merry Christmas
2007-12-18 21:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mandy Cakes 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a private person and I don't mind it once in a while, but for longer periods, it can be trying as you are use to your life and when someone else comes into it, your schedule is not the same.
You should speak to your husband about how you feel. Come to an understanding and then have him or you tell him what your decision was.
Are you afraid of being alone with him? You don't really know him and don't feel comfortable with him around when your husband is not there, those types of things.
Something like It is ok to stay one or two nights, but after that, he needs to find other arrangements.
Best wishes to you and have a Merry Christmas.
2007-12-18 21:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has just put his families wishes infront of yours, that spells trouble. It appears you were not given any say in this and that is totally WRONG as this will affect you more than it will you husband. Guys just don't get it.
I made the mistake of allowing this to happen and I've had brothers, cousins, nephews and friends sponge off us, steal from us and as long as they were related to hubby I wasn't supposed to get upset.
After years of this I have put my foot down. Never again will I allow one of his relatives to live or stay with us for anything other than a short visit. Should this happen again, (I've never been consulted or my feelings considered just always been told), my SI knows I'll be gone. I am not joking.
This is not a good idea at all as you are still newly married. Your husband is creating a problem a new marriage does not need as you WILL come to resent him and his family especially if he continues to put their needs before yours. Big mistake on his part.
2007-12-18 22:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong in this issues.
Every woman needs her privacy.
If a relative of her in-laws come, then yes you would feel shy and you would need your privacy to do your daily things.
Why is he going to stay with you two..?
Anyways, just tell your husband how you feel if your really disturbed and worried about this issue.
2007-12-18 21:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i feel u i amm 44 and just got my children out of the home n i love walking in my underwear and dont want no one to stay ....but sometimes we have to make room for our families and i wish u the best .talk to ur husband maybe he can stay a month with u guys a nd a month with another relative and so on
2007-12-18 22:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your husband , and i'm sure he'll understand
Tell him that you are not comfortable of him coming over to stay with you and that you need privacy.
Maybe you can invite you mother to stay with you or someone else who is close to you so you'll feel safer.
Anyway dont worry tell somebody i'm sure they'll understand
Good luck :)
2007-12-18 21:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd better voice your opinions !! or concerns about this matter !! Before it's set up or takes place to the point that your nerves are medically affected !?! If you think things will get that bad !!?!!. I wish I could say more on or about this matter !! But I might be voicing or stating my
2007-12-18 22:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 21:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I think is that you should explain it to your husband but if you don't want to I think you should let him stay and if there is any problems than tell your husband.
2007-12-18 21:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by Ruthie L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are within your right to your privacy as it is your home but I would suggest you speak to your husband about this issue as this is not only your house but his as well.
2007-12-18 21:53:58 · answer #10 · answered by Maricel S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋