im 16 years old and my bf is mad at me and i think we will brake up im so sad and scared....what if i cant find another bf what if no other boy likes me or my body what if i die old and alone....what if boys dont like me...im scared that if i move to japan japanese boy wont want to date me! i dont know what to do...
2007-12-18 19:02:02 · 35 answers · asked by Charlotte B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
16, no point in worrying, youll probably have a new boyfriend in a week , & maybe another 2 weeks after that.....
2007-12-18 19:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by bwauder_td 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's your problem? You'll be the new girl, exotic even. If you're reasonably well mannered, you'll be taking judo lessons to beat those boys off. My daughter went to Japan for the summer a few years ago, so I'm basing my answer on her reports. As for dying old and alone, there's worse things, like dying young and drunk in a car full of friends. We don't know our fate, but if one guy found you attractive, another will also. (I have 5 daughters so I know how it works) You may be lucky to break up because some other guy may have been hanging back from asking you out. I'd say you're overreacting because all this is happening at once. Relax. Enjoy the opportunities, and if you go to Japan, learn to say "Hello" in Japanese. Have fun.
2007-12-18 19:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by jelesais2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the chances that you have somehow found the only person in the entire world that would ever date you are pretty slim. :) You're only 16! I'm not sure what the social ideal is for a Japanese girl, but let me let you in on a secret. No matter what you look like, you can be cool. You've just got to find your own way. (Plus if you move to Japan, you'll be the new girl from a foreign country and have that mysterious allure going on - work with it!)
2007-12-18 19:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by vlydia_noctum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww honey don't worry!
I'm sorry your boyfriend is mad at you, but you do not know if he will break up with you! You guys can probably work through whatever it is.
And if he does, again, I am sorry but one breakup wont affect other guys that like you! Other guys will like you! You dont need to worry about that.
Also, if you move to Japan, guys there will like you too! (: Think of it as a beautiful experience. Not many people ever get to even leave the country! You would be very lucky!
But sweetheart, enjoy life. Not everything is about boys and dating. Just have fun! (:
Happy Holidays
2007-12-18 19:10:44 · answer #4 · answered by Cori M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you've been on this earth about as long as i have. i've never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl intimately. and i'm not one bit sad about it. and i am attractive. you'll find someone, everyone does. but you need to realize it's not the end of the world. you've prolly known this guy only since highschool, so what. like i always say, highhschool relationships aren't meant to last and are over-rated.
but for my advice, dump him first then move on. learn from the mistakes you made then connect with a close friend and ask for advice. talk it out and then cry it out. then you'll feel much much better.
2007-12-18 19:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by bodacious beetle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you that life doesn't stop if you brake up with your boyfriend. A young girl like you will soon find plenty of boys will like you, so stop worrying. As to moving to Japan, you might find that you are thought of a more sought after girl, so chear up and good luck for the future.
2007-12-18 20:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend broke up with me when I was 16, and I thought it was the end of the world. It wasn't, and I've had many other boyfriends since then. I even had two more in high school.
You change so much in looks and personality all the way into your twenties. It isn't likely you'll stay with any of the boyfriends you have until you've grown into the adult self you'll eventually be. Then you'll find someone who you can settle down with that fits you really well.
Boys like the chase - they like girls that are intelligent, confident, take good care of themselves, and have lives and interests outside of their friends and boyfriends. If you can project that, you'll always have boys interested in you.
2007-12-18 19:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by katykangaroo8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do is to stop worrying how you look!
Well i had a friend then she kept on telling everybody that I was lesbian which i was really not because i was just really a rocker! well we never spoke to each other! Then one day she cried then the rest of her clique cried. I think maybe she was crying about what she's done to me. Sothe next day her clique said sorry to me and we kept smiling at each other. I heard some rumors that She is still backstabbing me but i dont believe! Who cares how you look right? It is the personality that matters!
2007-12-18 19:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by Annika A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is take some valium. (JK)
Come on, your young you will be just fine! 16? Are you kidding me? I know people who are 40 who aren't married. Your teen years are up and down. I bet you that your current bf wont be your last. It is best to meet many people and get to know them well. You can't just settle for less or for what you are used to.
Don't be scared your just a kid. Chillax watch a movie and wait to see what happens.
If you break up, remind yourself that you are better than him anyway.
2007-12-18 19:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by Marianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa!! Everything will be all right. Everything will work out how it should be. It won't be pleasant if you and your boyfriend break up, but it will give you some time to get to know yourself and what you want out of life.
It sounds like you need some confidence building. It sounds like you are feeling insecure right now but things really will get better.
Come on...a few deep breaths. It'll be okay.
2007-12-18 19:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by southwest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 16, right?.. There are LOTS of boys in JAPAN!! and still your too young!! If you think that NO BOYS will like you... ERASE that in your mind!! I know somewhere out there... There is a perfect man for you that GOD will give.... so dont be scared!! and dont think that you die alone coz GOD is always there for you.... AND maybe HE is planning a perfect someone for you... and you willl meet him... God knows when... so dont think you will die alone... COZ GOD IS ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU AND PLANNING SOMEONE FOR YOU TO MEET IN THE FUTURE.... -I know what you feel coz I felt that too-
2007-12-18 19:09:51 · answer #11 · answered by darkAlleygurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋