I had a young girl who looked to be around 9 or so, acting like a complete B**** to some random people in the super market. The yelling at the cashier to "bag her stuff NOW!" While her mother stood there with a stupid half grin on her face.
I know times change and kids grow up with different things and act much different from way back when. But it seems more and more kids from that age group are more brazen than ever. Mouthing off obscenities and curses to people everywhere.
Notice that too?
(please state your age, with your comment) I am 21
2007-12-18 18:52:41 · 4 answers · asked by Charles 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hello. I am 43 and a father, with 3 gifted children.
This is a touchy subject, and i am going to get a lot of flack for it by hateful peeps screaming "child beater". But I am an American citizen entitled to opinion, wether they like it or no.
We have been made terrified of disciplining our kids publically today. Some nosey random passerby will call the police on us for it (anonomously) without knowing the whole story.Afterall-they think they know it all.
The child obviously had no respect-well how and why does THAT occur? How does a kid even learn respect? What would have happened to YOU as a kid acting like that 15 years ago, and why did you never do that yourself as a child?
Because your parent-and that older society-would NEVER have tolerated it. I would have gotten a stiff hand across my backside then, and nobody would be calling the police-because they felt it wasn't their business, anyway. Mom or dad would even be applauded for it so the kid could see EVERYBODY felt the same way about his misbehavior. But today somebody is trying to control the way a PRIVATE FAMILY runs its own life. It is a Mom and Dad's exclusive business-Not yours. Butt Out already...
This is the difference between the 2 worlds. Today is all freebies and no consequences.
2007-12-18 19:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by matenmoe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her dad about it- it sounds like she doesn't respect your authority. Maybe he can have a talk with her and remind her that when you babysit her, you are in charge. Also, ask her dad if he can help her pick out her outfit for school the night before. Maybe you or her dad can buy her an alarm clock for her next birthday so that you don't have to be the bad guy that has to wake her up. As for breakfast, I would give her two choices rather than asking her the open-ended question of what she wants for breakfast. It sounds like she could be acting out because she misses her mom and maybe she resents you because you're not her mother. Just try to be patient with her, but firm, letting her know that you're in charge. Good luck!
2016-05-25 00:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by cornelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 39 and I have three children. People do not think that it is their responsibility to teach their children how to behave and to have manners. They think that it is funny when they act like this. Then they turn around and blame the schools for how their kids act when they are acting like this towards them. The school is not suppose to teach them how to act, their parents are. People need to take back control of their children. Mine do not act like that and never will. I have witnessed this and much more. It makes me sick.
2007-12-18 19:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 29 in CA. I cannot agree more with you. It disgusts me. Then when I discipline my kids because I am the opposite I feel like these people think I'm mean to them. Kids need to learn respect for people, their family, and mostly for themselves.
I think they watch to much tv personally. School kids are such a bad influence, and sadly parents in this case too..
2007-12-18 19:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by J K 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋