Please be honest... I want to know, even if it hurts, because I think I know the answer, but I just want to be sure.
Let's suppose that the guy in question actually mustered the courage to talk to you (girl), but completely butchered his "line" or whatever he tries to say to tell you that he is interested in you. And he comes across as not very socially skilled in general either - whether in spoken or non-spoken language, and you can tell that easily.
Would you really be as turned off as I am reading in some various sources seem to suggest?
Again please be honest - I don't want the standard answers of "awww I love dating shy guys" or "don't worry you'll meet someone eventually" even though those kind of answers are nice, they aren't helpful... I basically fit the profile of this guy, so I need to know just how bad my condition is (the articles I've read seem to make it look like I have no chances at all with women as it is now because of my lack of sociability)
2007-12-18 18:35:24 · 12 answers · asked by Xan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They're not fans.
Women generally prefer dim witted, loud-mouthed thugs if given the choice.
The only exception is if the shy/nerdy guy has loads of cash, in which case some gold-digger types may feign an interest in him (they'll be cheating on him behind his back of course).
They're also pretty much incapable of answering this sort of question honestly, they've been socially conditioned that they should appear to want a decent guy but deep down it is the last thing they would want.
2007-12-18 18:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jack O 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm really hoping the majority of the answers are sarcastic. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a shy/nerdy guy. If a woman doesn't like you for you then she's not worth your time. It's cute and refreshing when a guy is so interested in you that he makes a little mistake, be it stumbling over words, blushing, etc. Just because you're not the stereotypical jock doesn't mean girls won't like you. Don't try to be anything but yourself. If you're nervous, be nervous. If you're shy, be shy. Either way, if she's the right girl for you she won't care if you're not perfect. You're human.
2016-01-14 07:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'm turned off if a guy seems too interested right away... and shy/nerdy guys tend to get a little overexcited when girls are nice and conversing with them so therefore I end up shying away from them. Oh, and a "line" is not the way to go. My advice, work on people skills in general and talk to girls in casual group settings... if you are good with a group of guys then girls wont just see some "shy/nerdy" guy.
2007-12-18 18:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you need to worry about whether or not you "have a chance" the way you are and have been. Instead try to learn how to be more socially comfortable. Take others' suggestions and practice conversing with people in non-romantic situations. I'm a shy girl and I can sympathize with a guy who doesn't seem to know what to say. I have a boyfriend now, but previously I would never know what to say to guys. You seem to express yourself fine in your question, so perhaps talking to women online before meeting them would be helpful. IMing gives you more time to think about what you are going to say, and you don;t have to worry about stumbling over your words. My boyfriend and I met at college, but we spent a long time conversing online before we started dated, and I think this was very helpful for me.
2007-12-18 19:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I might not be interested at first romantically, but if I kept talking to him and he was interesting, then I'd be into being friends. Then, down the line my feelings might change or I'd introduce him to a friend and explain that once he's past his nervousness he'd be good for her.
But here's some advice. Practice your social skills by talking to girls who you're not interested in romantically. Maybe you won't feel as shy and you can build up your confidence. You might even make a good platonic friend in the process... who'll introduce you to someone special.
2007-12-18 18:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by Been there done that 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The reason why "many" or "most", not all girls, fail to fall for 'super shy/nerdy guys' is because these types of girls can only feel loved if they are not scared of having just about everything they could ever imagine wanting.
2007-12-18 18:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by shortdaylongnight 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know you just remind me of myself except in the intellectual department. ^^ Just be who you are Cirion, I prefer if I could meet someone like you in real life. It's too bad I'm not in my earlier 20s. I would have snatch you up for good.
2007-12-19 03:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by mitchchan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly super shy/nerdy guys are a turnoff. he doesn't have to be a complete alpha male jock, but i need someone with confidence and ease.
2007-12-19 01:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am seriously being honest, i always fall for the shy/nerdy guys. Probably though because i am a shy/nerdy girl,
2007-12-18 18:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My sister is into the "nerdy" guys. And I don't mind the "shy" ones.
2007-12-18 18:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋