How to handle these guys?

Question

I need to know what to say to these guys. Ignoring this doesn't seem to work.

1) Married senior partner asked me to lunch, I am *really* hoping it's work related, but since he has a tendency to stand super close when talking to me, probably not. Plus co-worker said she thinks he has a thing for me.

2) My friend's ex-bf (she's still friends with him, but she's now married) asked if I wanted to do something sometime. He seems nice, but I'm not really interested. She's encouraging me to go out with him.

3) A good friend I've known for years has started acting jealous that I spend a lot of time with another friend (both are guys). One night he said that if friend #2 was single, he would probably have asked me out by now. He's made other odd jealous-like comments which have led to awkwardness. Both are friends and I don't want to date either. (Friend #2 only wants to be friends too, so really no reason at all for #1 to be jealous...)

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4) This girl at work thinks this other guy likes me and keeps trying to push the issue, which is slightly uncomfortable. She's definately got out her cupid arrow. Though she might be right.

MOST IMPORTANT!

5) A guy who had a thing for me back in the day got in touch with me again recently. Despite me ignoring his advances, he's become blatantly obvious that he's still interested. I was fine being friends with him, but that didn't work. I tried ignoring him all together, but he keeps coming back. He's not stalking me or anything like that, just being irritating. What exactly do I need to do to get him to realize that it ain't never happenin!?

Thanks! That's all.

Answer 1

I've heard a lot of things from girls who just aren't interested in me but I put myself out on the limb. From, "it's not you, it's me", "I just need my space", "I need time for my friends" and plenty of other one liners to hearing it from her best friends, I've had my experience with let downs.

All I wanted was to know whether or not she was interested and if there was anything there. If I could have had anything, I would have taken a, "I'm just not interested in dating you."

I've also heard, "I'm just not thinking about dating in general right now", then the next week she's going out with some other guy, and that hurts more than her saying she's not interested in me.

So, as a guy, I would say you should just be honest with them and let them know they're irritating you. Then let your friend at work know to back off a little and put the arrows away.

Answer 2

Well on number one tell the guy he is married and you dont too much want to have anything with divorce.

Number two tell your friend how you feel and that your happy the way you are and can find your own guy.

Number three jealousy never solves anything so take all of them out and just go out to dinner and somewhere quiet with them all and tell them what you think and how you feel about this whole situation.

Answer 3

1)Go out and have fun with the guy. Even if it's not work related , am sure you can still be friends.

2)If she's encouraging you, that means he's good. Go out with him.

3) Nothing.

Answer 4

1) I would turn it into a joke and say something like, "Why are you promoting me or something?"

2) You really don't have to do anything, just don't answer his calls. He'll get the hint.

3) They haven't asked, so don't worry about it at the moment. If they do ask just tell them you don't know if you want to date right now.

4) Ask her to please stop pushing the issue. Tell her you can handle your own dating but you appreciate her advice.

5) Tell him you like someone else or are dating someone else.

Answer 5

say no to all. except work guy...go to lunch with him and totally try to turn him off.