I'm not looking forward to planning a wedding, and I've been engaged since May. My fiance and I are in our mid 20s and not done w/school yet.
Is this normal?
2007-12-18 17:26:13 · 18 answers · asked by PlasticTrees 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Love isn't predictable. It's normal. Is it the whole deal and burden of a wedding that is getting you down? Maybe you could just have something simple? Or have you fallen out of love with him?
2007-12-18 17:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that's pretty normal..at least I'm kinda going through that too. We got engaged around the same time, (in the begining of June) and my fiance and I are the same age as you are too (25), and we're really busy with school.
I go up and down with being really into planning it, and then not wanting to deal with all the trouble and thinking about putting it off because "maybe we're not ready" if we go through a tough week and argue, or if I suddenly get swamped with school stuff. I think that it's pretty normal.
I don't think it is particularly bad to not look forward to the "getting married" part...i.e. planning the wedding. It's truely a big pain in the butt organizing all of those details. However, I think I would be worried if what is bothering you is that you don't look forward to "being married". If you don't look forward to a lifetime full of those things which both excite and annoy you most about your fiance then you probably should not be marrying him.
Why don't you just have a really simple wedding? If you aren't into planning it, there is really no reason why it should be complicated. Honestly, the truly "traditional" American wedding is not one of those big fancy $100,000 bashes you see on television. Those are modern, Hollywood weddings. Traditional American weddings involved setting a date at a church in your hometown, usually the one you grew up in, inviting all of your family, getting married, and then eating dinner together afterwards at home to celebrate. My fiance and I are going somewhere in the middle...keeping the wedding small and hiring as few people as possible.
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2007-12-19 05:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by jillagig 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged for 21 months. My husband and I are still in school and in our 20s too. You will go through times of excitement, and times where you really don't even feel like going through the planning process at all. It's a roller coaster and it's totally normal. Being super excited the entire time is what isn't normal because there is a lot of stress and sometimes you think that you don't want to deal with it. So don't worry about it...there's nothing wrong with it.
2007-12-19 01:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by Roni 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal. Love can put couples in a state of euphorism that isn't explained by life . Just chill out until you both finish school. There's so much out there in the world that you guys haven't experienced yet. Don't glue yourselves together this young. Because trust me I've seen it you'll be thinking about how to get out of it before you even start it. Education is gonna take a large part of your life right now and the both of you need to succeed before you mess up what you have going for yourselves. Don't even be engaged. Be friends that will meet back up after graduation and if the feeling is still there then you're both open for new ideas.
2007-12-19 02:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mouth of the South 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this is normal, it happened to me. You have to figure out why you are not excited. In my case, it was spending all that money. I wasn't excited about planning the wedding, but I was still excited about getting married to the man I love. We decided to elope and get married where we are honeymooning. Now I am sooooo happy AND excited! We are spending less than half of what we would have paid out for the wedding.
2007-12-19 09:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged in june of this year and I was excitted about getting married .....until I started planning the wedding....It is just sooo ,uch work that I wish the wedding was over and done with and we could just be married already...Its totally normal.....dont worry !!! cingrats on your engagement too!
2007-12-19 02:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having doubts about getting married now is the time to stop it. Don't get married and then end up breaking up. I wish I would have listened to my head. You are still young and you should probably wait until you have finished school to get married. By then you will know for sure whether or not this is the guy for you or not. Good Luck on what ever you decide. Just take your time and don't rush into anything.
2007-12-19 04:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by Doodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda is because unless you are getting married in 2009 you are late in booking a hall a church and a caterer.
If you didn`t set the date, then it is ok because you can set it for 2009 and once you start getting things planned and the people in your wedding picked and the hall and everything, you will not be able to wait
for the day to be over.
2007-12-19 01:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your both still in school. i would wait until your done, and then plan a wedding. And yes its 100% NORMAL! Good luck.
2007-12-19 05:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by Leslie Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal, I'm pretty young, in middle school, so I obviously aren'ts engaged. xD
But in my opinion it sounds pretty normal, I mean after several months the excitement of it all probably wore down.
2007-12-19 01:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by Lempicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋