she keeps on leaving me alone 2 go hang out wit her friends Im only 14yrs old and I feel like Im not getting enough love from her she hasnt told me tht she loved me in like 4ever and when she does stay home she stays up in her room and like ignores me and I help her a lot around the house and I did most of the dishes like she said and she got home and said tht if I dont start helping her more around the house tht she will ship me off 2 my dads house and tht Ill never c her again...Im really depressed and im usually happy but now she just ignores me and leaves me home alone on 4 like hours and hours like if she will leave at like 1pm she wont be home till like 10pm and Im just stuck her...And I kno she has school and work and everything but now she is out of school but still goes 2 work but she gets off at 3pm and then goes and hangs out wit her friends and acts as if she doesnt have a daughter tht actually needs her love and care!I feel like im missing out on a mothers love!HELP PLZ!!!
2007-12-18 17:23:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I try 2 tell her tht I need 2 spend time with her but she just blows me off!!And even though me and my dad never really got along he has been tryin 2 get kno me better and sumtimes I think living wit him will be better u kno?and I cant tell her how I feel cuz then she will go on a rambling rage about how "Aful she is and how wonderful and great I am" and she made me feel stupid cuz I made a D on my report card and she said " I dont c y ppl would call U to get help on THEIR homework cing how u made a D" I mean come on I felt like I waz the stupidest person ever!!!
2007-12-18 17:34:03 · update #1
I mean I do love her but sumtimes I feel like she doesnt love me cuz she makes me feel so stupid and like I shouldnt be here I try to be the best daughter I can be but its really hard 2 be tht daughter when im gettin ignored!!!sumtimes I feel like running away and im so freakin depressed and im usually a happy person or usually in a good mood..
2007-12-18 17:43:32 · update #2
Talk with the school counselor. This person may have more ideas. How would it be to live with your father? Could that be better than what is happening with your mother? I think someone needs to step in (another adult) to talk with your mother if this situation was to improve. Good luck.
2007-12-23 03:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweetie, is living with your dad an option? maybe that would b best for u. sounds like your mom is going through something. have u told her how u feel and that u are hurting. do u have a grandparent, aunt or uncle u can confide in? sometimes us parents just get off the beaten path and need a reality check.
would it b possible for u to make an invitation, inviting your mom to dinner. make her dinner and after u are done, talk. tell her how much u miss her and u have this idea that maybe once a week u could have a mother/daughter night. do your hair, nails, etc. and then another time order a pizza and watch a movie.
try to b as mature as u can about it. tell her u r so happy for her that she has friends and has fun but hello i am here and i love u and miss u and i want to have fun with u too.
she may feel like if she doesn't have a guy she has to be out until she finds one " my ex-daughter in law does that"
i don't like that she told u she will ship u off and never see u again and it is for that reason that i am going to suggest u talk to your school counselor. please don't let this get out of hand. talk to someone about how u are feeling. depression is awful.
2007-12-18 17:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try showing your mom this question. Mom you have a daughter that loves you and needs you. More importantly your have a 14 year old that actually wants to spend time with you. Don't blow this. You may be going through changes and want to experience things but you are missing the absolute best experience you will every have. Think about it, you have an actual teen ager that doesn't hate that you are around. And to you little one asking such an inpotant question, if this doesn't wake your mother up, then maybe your father would appreciate you more for the time being. Go easy on your mom she is human and all humans make bad decisions from time to time, she still loves you, she's just mixed up right now.
2007-12-18 17:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go live with your dad??? I mean could it possibly be worse than the situation you're in with an unloving, irresponsible mother? I think it would be best for everyone involved. Your mom obviously isn't into being a parent, you said yourself your dad is trying to get to know you better so that means he's trying to get close to you. If you went to live with your dad you'd probably have someone (a parent I mean) who is actually GLAD to have a daughter like you and will give you the love that you deserve. I've seen firsthand that sometimes Dad is the better, more loving parent.
2007-12-18 18:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're old enough to work. I began working when I was 14-years old. I suggest finding a job and working on the weekends. Sure your Mother has yet to say she loves you, but who gives?
I know that is a foolish thing of me to say. You must assert your indepence. I am being realistic here. A lot of young girls your age are going through the same thing. We must be realistic with ourselves, we must realize that in the end all we have is ourselves and we cannot allow others to get in our way of a good and happy life.
2007-12-18 19:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you may desire to comprehend that she is ur mom and shell continuously be ur mom no count number what u cant disobeyy her, on no account communicate sh!t approximately her she would be slightly nosey and all up ur bissness yet she loves you and needs u to be secure ask her if the two one among u can pass out and bond and act mature, possibly she'll have faith u and u wont be grounded anymore have a protracted communicate along with her and enable her know ur thoughts yet dont screem at her confer along with her with a comfortable voice and save this in the decrease back of you head continuously LOVE UR mom CUZ IF SHE DOESNT like the way UR appearing, U WONT pass to HEAVEN (I DIDNT clarify THIS ceremony, yet ASK UR mom approximately IT, SHELL possibly know CUZ SHES MUSLIM) and not in any respect EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER IN UR existence grow to be EMO ITLL turn UR entire existence around continuously be grateful that u have a mom hundreds of folk international r killin for a mom be grateful sweety
2016-10-08 22:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to go to a school counselor, a teacher or a friend, or even phone your dad about it, get someone to talk to her for you, or TELL her you're young and still need her attention, make some plans to go out with your mum, to a movie, mother daughter bonding time might help you two
2007-12-18 17:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by peanut909 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your Dad for a period and hopefully she will soon understand what an important part of her life your are.
2007-12-18 19:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I try to make my kids feel number one over anyone and everything. And that is how it should be. Talk to an adult at your school.
2007-12-18 19:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should repay her in the same way. get a good company and hang out with him/her. Ignore ur mother the way she does and soon she will realise ur importance. Be proactive not reactive. I know it sounds offensive but thats what u got to do....
2007-12-18 17:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Arif 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋