My obnoxious father-in-law is coming for the holidays, what can I do as not to get upset with the things he says and does. I'm already having anxiety attacks and he hasn't even arrived yet, he arrives this Friday.
2007-12-18 15:09:59 · 10 answers · asked by shears 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What youre dealing with is a socially ignorant person who has no clue how to reach out to others. So he stumbles along being annoying and obnoxious to get the attention he craves so much.
You cant change him but you can change the way you percieve him. He is like a child in a mans body who has remained ignorant of how to communicate properly so people will respond in a positive way. Instead he pushes them away. Try looking at him as a person desperate for something he has no clue how to get.
If you really dislike him you can watch him in amusement as he stumbles in his actions and makes a fool of himself. If you have any compassion you will feel pity for him. He is a lost man.
If none of that works try to spend as much time as you can escaping to parts of the house where you can be alone and get a few minutes of peace.
2007-12-18 15:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well might want to relax a little. Give the guy a break. If you know he says things out of line maybe that is just who he is and since it is a holiday you can over look and let it go for your husband. This is the time of year for Patience and giving
I am sure you are not always perfect.
2007-12-20 04:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is to deal with it because he's not likely to change. Opinionated people will spout off opinion to elicit responses and open the door for more "spouting". It's best just to ignore it. If you feel the comments are about your father are getting too personal (understandable). I'd suggest saying something to throw him off like "I admire my father tremendously. He has great qualities just like you. You should get to know him better." Whether you really think your FIL has great qualities doesn't matter. He'll see himself in a similar position and maybe think twice about making insensitive remarks. You are stuck with him so that's probably the best you can hope for.
2016-05-24 23:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to handle him is be extra nice and let stuff go over your head. I am sure since your hosting the Holiday you will have a lot to do so you might not have the time to hear all the remarks he has to say.
2007-12-21 03:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plaster a stupid grin on your face, smile, nod, and say uh huh whenever he says something obnoxious. Just keep on smiling.
He will eventually think you are an idiot and find someone else to pester.
Good luck, and you will be in my prayers.
2007-12-18 15:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a lot of deep breathing, and add an extra shot of whiskey to the egg nog. To tell you the truth, I tell myself and other people in this situation... Smile and nod. And thank God he will be going home soon. Good luck.
2007-12-18 15:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Married Lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a hotel room...for YOU!! or endulge in frequent alcoholic beverages...or get a prefilled order of Prozac!! my friend has this same issue,,, except his LIVES with him!!
2007-12-18 15:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should intervene. After all, you "cleave" to your spouse. Spouse's second only to God. Even your relationship with your children is not as important (alot of mom's get this one screwed up).
2007-12-18 15:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by vadtrav 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Kick the asshole in the nuts
2007-12-18 16:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and if it get to uncontrollable then talk to your hubby ,and i am sure he will have an talk with his dad
2007-12-18 15:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋