I met a friend online about 2 months ago. We've pretty much been talking every day or every other day and vibe on different levels. He's talking about wanting to meet in person and has even offered going half on a plane ticket to see him and offered for me to stay with him. However, I'm leery, is there some "unwritten rule" about meeting people online? We are both grown adults, same age range, and ambitious. the trip would be planned sometime end of Jan or end of Feb by that time we would have conversated a little more, but I would appreciate ADULT opinions on this question. thank you.
2007-12-18 15:01:42 · 10 answers · asked by Malc T 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
meeting offline is fine, but its always iffy. go with a friend to meet him, suggest he bring a friend as well, its just much safer that way. that way, if you wanna jet, you can always blame the other person and leave. dont go to his turf. meet somewhere in the middle where you both dont know the area, so he doesnt have the "upper hand" on you. be careful, and smart :D good luck!
2007-12-18 15:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is IMPERATIVE that if you meet this person, you do so in a public place. Best to have someone with you, too. There are too many crazy people out there who are predators and will take advantage of others. I would buy my own plane ticket, pay for my own hotel and not depend on that person for anything. If this is legitimate, you can plan to neet again on safe territory and let it grow from there. Be very careful but have fun.
2007-12-18 15:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it...2 months is not enough. Why doesn't he fly out to meet you instead? I think that it is moving a bit fast for my taste (whether this a friend or romantic relationship doesn't matter). You need to take caution and follow your intuition. Unfortunately these days you have to be very careful of what you do because there are sick people out there. I'm not saying the person you have been talking with is weird or sick or anything...Please be careful and if you don't feel it's right then don't second guess yourself, your gut feeling tells you a lot.
2007-12-18 15:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by L.M.L 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would not stay with him. You never really know people and you do not know what you are walking into. Meet him and stay in public places for a while. The only rule is to stay safe. Make sure that someone knows where you are and who you are with. I would check in with them while you are gone. Better to be safe than sorry.
2007-12-18 16:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you know anything about him apart from what he has told you himself? Have you communicated with any of his friends or family to see what other people think of him?
He may be a perfectly nice bloke, but I would be suspicious and probably not go, and the more he offered incentives like paying for the plane ticket the more wary I would be.
2007-12-18 15:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by Exodus 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you REALLY want to, go ahead and fly to meet him, but stay in a hotel, give his contact information to your friends and loved ones, and meet in public places. That way there is no pressure on either of you, you can BOTH be safe (he doesn't know you either) and you can find out if you have the same chemistry in person that you have online.
Good luck. I love love! ;o)
2007-12-18 15:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not like these kind of meetings. It could turn out to be any "Nut case" Unless you had a private investigator check it out, you just do not know....You could go with a friend but if it is not legitimate you could be jeopardizing that persons life as well as your own. You absolutely should not go without it being investigated.......and, do not take short cuts...If you can't afford this, you can't afford to meet this person....Signed Concerned......
2007-12-18 16:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by mj 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should fly to your town and stay in a hotel and you should meet him with at least one of your friends along. If he won't/can't agree to that, then forget about him! I wouldn't respect a woman who didn't have at least that much sense to be cautious. Good luck.
2007-12-18 15:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by dddbbb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i say go for it.. but be smart about it don't meet at his location both of you should meet at a mutual location. and public.. don't go back to a room because that is just putting your self in a more difficult sistution you stated you felt leery so be smart!
but my all means go!
2007-12-18 16:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, always, always, meet in a public place. Better yet, bring a friend along, as well.
2007-12-18 19:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋