Christian heterosexuals: would you marry a homosexual of the opposite sex?

Question

Basically the Christian Bible tells us that homosexuality is a sin, the gay person should repent and straighten up.

I was wondering how many Christian women out there would be willing to marry a gay man. And how many Christian males out there would be willing to marry a lesbian. You know, to help them to be "normal".

They, of course, wouldn't be attracted to you, but it would solve a problem that a part of Christianity obviously cares so deeply about.

(For all you Christian women out there, who got their hopes up now: This is a hypothetical question, I'm not gay, and I'm not interested in marrying you, sorry)

Answer 1

Homosexuality is barely mentioned in the Bible, despite what many Anti-Gay people think. And there is no call in the Bible to make homosexuals "normal."

BUT- no, I would not want to marry a person who could not love me back.

Answer 2

To marry someone who wouldn't have sex with me doesn't make sense to me. If a woman was sexually attracted to both genders, was sexually attracted to me, and had the beliefs and character so that I could trust her to be sexually faithful, loved me, and was a Christian; I would have no problem marrying her if I loved her.

As someone who has a background in psychology, I think that it is more accurate to talk of people with same gender sexual attraction and people with opposite gender sexual attraction, rather than talk about homosexuals and heterosexuals. I also think that using those terms helps us to think more clearly about the subject.

Actually, I'm not sure that the Bible says that same gender sexual attraction is a sin. It does say that acting on that attraction is a sin. The Bible also says that having sex with the opposite gender is also a sin if the person is not your spouse.

You ask an excellant question.

Answer 3

Most of the devout Christians I know don't care much about sex. They don't seem to like it and the only reason to have it is for reproductive purposes. That being the case, I see no reason not to reproduce with a gay or lesbian person if you are a Christian as long as the equipment works.
The only issue then is infidelity because most Christians don't have much of a sex life.
On the other hand, if there was infidelity, you wouldn't have to worry about illigitimate children being an embarrassment.
Yep, it sounds like a pretty good arrangement to me.

Answer 4

Wow.

I must say, that's an incredible way to think about it.

I've been thinking about something related, tonight: Many Christians claim that homosexuality is a "choice." Well, homosexuals have the choice to be straight, then heterosexuals must have the choice to be gay. It can't just work one way; by definition, it must work both ways.

But how many of you Christians have waken up one morning, yawned, eaten some cereal, then said to yourself, "You know, this routine is kind of boring.. I think I might be gay for a day. It sounds like a great idea!"?

Very few of you, if any.

If they actually tried to do that, I think they'd realize how hard it actually IS to change those feelings -- in fact, I'd say it's pretty much impossible.

Back on topic; sorry for the rant; as an atheist, no, I wouldn't.

It's not that I don't like gay people.

But I'd rather not hold them down in a marriage that they're really not interested in. If the person I love wants to marry a man, then I'd much rather he marry a man, than marry me. I want him to be happy, and if I can't make him happy in a romantic sense, I want to give him every opportunity possible to find happiness.

Marrying him, hence having him feel obligated to uphold the marriage, wouldn't be right.

But again, great point :]

Answer 5

Imagine for a moment why you are so attracted to the opposite sex. Why you feel the connection you do. That is exactly the way they feel about the same sex... and it is also why. You'll notice in your own thoughts that at no point (unless prompted) do you ever think "lock and key" Therefor that argument is invalid. The powers that TRULY attract 2 individuals has nothing to do with reproductive organs.

Answer 6

If I loved him, then I'd consider it. But really, if he's gay, then his attraction would be toward individuals of his own sex. We could have a lovely platonic marriage, or even engage in the occasional bit of experimentation, but his primary attraction, both physical and possibly emotional, would be toward other men. Why would I marry him to make him "normal"? He's "normal" already. My church teaches that all people are children of God, not just the straight ones. By the way, I do have some gay friends who are married to persons of the opposite sex. Their reasons vary.

Answer 7

lol... this topic is funny. The gays and lesbians should remain what they are. Others should not interefere into thier business. We all come alone on this planet and will exist alone so why bother what's going on around you. Mind your own business and help others till some extend but interfering in this matter is not proper. If you think that Christian heterosexuals is against thier religion than let god punish them and make them better. Why do you want to bother?

Answer 8

I have heard of this happening--not because the heterosexual person wanted to change his spouse, but because there was some love and friendship there. (Doesn't that count for something?) The couple just decided to deal with the sex part as it came along.

Heck--even Truman Capote wanted to marry a woman at one point because he did love her--but admitted that he would still be attracted to men. She refused him and he had a hard time with that, according to his biography.

I have heard of a woman and a gay man falling in love an marrying because she adored him and said he was like a "girlfriend with a d***." He loved decorating and shopping and style, so they had tons in common--just not sex. That was fine for both of them.

Answer 9

No, when push comes to shove: most of them would not marry someone who isn't attracted to them. The funny part is that they don't stop and think that that is *exactly* what they are saying gay folks should do by marrying someone of the opposite gender.

Answer 10

Man This should be a fun question to watch for interesting answers. Good work @ asker!

Personally I think is........
.........hahahahaha....

but seriously i'd like to see what people respond to this.
An neither christian nor straight so i guess am out of the purview to answer this.

Edits#

dawn@dumb!

Answer 11

Wouldnt that defeat the purpose of the whole gay/lesbian thing. Gays and lesbians do not do what they do to make everyone else happy...expecially Christians...so why bother!