My sister is in college and is turning 21 this year. I accidentally snooped through her chats with this boy she was dating, and all they talked about was being horny, fu/cking, and having sex. Ive seen birth control today sponge in her closet, and I have talked to her about it as well. She claims that they are just used as tampons. I still dont believe her. I told my oldest sister who is 25. Shes really mad at me and told me that my sister can decide whats best for her. I also realize that my sister is drinking and she says it happily. Ive seen all her drinking facebook pics and I dont know what to do. If I rat on her to ny1 else, shell never talk to me in her whole life. Although she claims that she does drink, she denies having sex...What do I do????
2007-12-18 14:00:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Please try to understand.. Our family is not allowed to have sex until married. Its a disgrace. Come on..
2007-12-18 14:10:22 · update #1
How about you keep out of her business and worry about yourself?!?
2007-12-18 14:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by G Money 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Little lady you need to mind your own business. It is good of you to be concerned with the well being of your sister, but she is 21 and legally able to make these decision's on her own.
If you have questions or concern about her then ask her.....Who are you going to tell even if she is 18 have consensual sex is not against the law, at 21 drinking alcohol is legal....So in either case you would not be ratting her out.
Snooping through her things! Why? What ever happen to the bonds of sisterhood? The older sister was right to be mad at you for invading another's personal items. She might wonder what things you have found about her.
You failed to mention your age,but Like I said to be conerned is a good thing nothing wrong with that. but to judge her when your so young and have not yet experience the things she is doing now you have no right to intrude .........My only other thing to say and not trying to be rude is grow up!!!
2007-12-18 14:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by thebaked 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... you have to understand she is in college and she is young and 21 now. She is not at home so she can make her own choices. I would not tell any more of the family. Talk to her about it and stop snooping and thinking the worse. Sex is different then it was back in the old days. And she is at the legal age to drink. So she is not breaking a law. All she is doing is destroying her liver.. that is her choice.
2007-12-18 14:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is at the age of legal consent for sex, and it's her choice to have sex or not... regardless of your family's beliefs and feelings.
The sex life of other adults is really no one else's business. It's private.
It would be nice if your older sister (the 25 year old) sat down with you and talked a little about this, but she didn't.
Your sisters having sex does not affect YOU in any way. If you do not want to have sex until marriage, then make that choice.
there comes a time in our lives when we have to accept others at face value and move forward with our own life.
take care.
2007-12-18 14:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's 21 it's not any of your business OR your parents- Rat her out? Good lord.. If your parents haven't figured out that their 21 year old daughter drinks and probably has sex on their own without you snooping, then your family has bigger issues than a perfectly normal 21 year old to worry about..
2007-12-18 14:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your right, and i think it's good that your concerned about your sister. If it was me i would have done the same thing, so dont be ashamed of what you think, even though these motherf*ckers who replied all gave stupid answers. First of all, i think that you have to talk to her, ask her is this what you really want? does she want to end up F*cking around. If she really does not see the light, there's nothing you can do. But just remember that one day, you shouldn't be her. You shouldn't follow in her footsteps. I'm sorry its hard on you, and i hope things go well for you.
2007-12-18 16:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well what i would do is first talk to her about it in a calm way not like why are you drinking and having sex! Tell her she can either tell your parents or you will. I dont know its a tuff situation. She is 21 though soo. might not be any of your buissness either.
2007-12-18 14:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not a disgrace. What's disgraceful is snooping on your sister, and making judgements on her. It really is none of your business, and you have no right to say or do anything about it.
2007-12-18 16:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is her business. And you cann't interfere in it. Having sex at 21 is quite normal.
2007-12-23 20:38:41 · answer #9 · answered by Nair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is living in your parents house, under their authority and/or they are paying for the college. And you know your parents are opposed to these things I would say tell them. They will probably find out at some point and if they find out you withheld it from them then you come off looking bad as well.
2007-12-18 14:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by mr_e_cowboy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Mind your own business. Its your sisters life
2007-12-18 14:09:37 · answer #11 · answered by Karen H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋