i need to help my dad's addiction and my slipping mental health.?

Question

I need to know for a way for me to get help for myself, as well as help my father, whom i love dearly. i don't want to see him to relapse and eventually overdose and die. i also am very concerned with my mental health, wich is progressively getting worse.

Lately, i have been feeling like i am slipping into insanity. I feel like i dont have control over anything (including my mind) Parents separated when i was 6 and i am 17 now. since the split i have suffered diagnosed migranes that have escalated to the point of displaying stroke-like symptoms. My dad is currently in a halfway house right now. i spoke to him last week for the first time in 6 months. he said he was sorry, and i know it was his fault but i am not angry at him at all. i am however extremely angry at my mom about the situation because she didnt tell me he was incarcerated. My mom is also VERY immature, and cares about politics and tv more than she cares about me, although she will deny that if you ask her. my current mental state makes it very hard to concentrate in school and my grades have been reflecting this.

i am pretty sure he is addicted to crack although i don't know for sure (due to my mother's neglect). she has also failed to tell me of his 15 other misdimeener charges he had against him.

Answer 1

hmm well that is a tough situation. I would say go to a professional but if you can't do that then .. well I will tell you about a siltation sort of similar... My mother was a drug addict and I grew up hating her because she was never around. I had a rough childhood. But I cracked when she died Jan of 2006 from a drug overdose. I too felt like I couldn't gain any control. I would lay on my floor and just feel like the whole place was spinning and I was screaming at the top of my lungs and no one would listen to me. Things that helped me get help for myself was to find ppl that I trust and do things that I love to do. I buried myself into music that I could relate to. Now for you migraines I would try to get medication for that if you haven't. And for your father, try to find drug rehabs for him. My mom tried to get help and I tried to get her through it. But really only he can get himself out of that. He fights a battle that is very scary. My mom did it to numb herself. Others have different reasons. Just try to see if you can get him into one. And if you can try to find some professional help if you cant find anyone to trust to even talk to. Your mother seems to not understand what is going on. Try to make her see in your eyes. Write her a letter of how you feel or some way to catch her eyes. She should be helping you. I wish you the best of luck and don't worry you are not the only one out there in your situation... heres a song that reminds me of my mother... maybe your dad can see what the lyrics are saying.....

Life Is Beautiful lyrics: By Sixx:A.M.

You can’t quit until you try
You can’t live until you die
You can’t learn to tell the truth
Until you learn to lie

You can’t breathe until you choke
You gotta laugh when you’re the joke
There’s nothing like a funeral to make you feel alive

Just open your eyes
Just open your eyes
And see that life is beautiful.
Will you swear on your life,
That no one will cry at my funeral?

I know some things that you don’t
I’ve done things that you won’t
There’s nothing like a trail of blood
to find your way back home

I was waiting for my hearse
What came next was so much worse
It took a funeral to make me feel alive

Just open your eyes
Just open your eyes
And see that life is beautiful.
Will you swear on your life,
That no one will cry at my funeral?

Just open your eyes
Just open your eyes
And see that life is beautiful.
Will you swear on your life,
That no one will cry at my funeral?

Just open your eyes
Just open your eyes
And see that life is beautiful.
Will you swear on your life,
That no one will cry at my funeral?

Just open your eyes
Just open your eyes
And see that life is beautiful.
Will you swear on your life,
That no one will cry at my funeral?

Answer 2

Hi hon.. if you are stil in school, the best resources for help are your school counselor and/or a teacher who you trust and respect....

You deserve good help, and i hope you will make an effort to get some... If your school counselor feels you need further help, she can talk to your mom if you give her permission, and give her advice about what you might need.

You can also check with your County's Health Dep't to ask about their mental health program.

I'm sorry your father is having issues.. addiction is an illness, and very hard to kick...

sending good thoughts your way, and i hope you will get some good answers here, as well.

Answer 3

Well,you have a couple of options here that can help you out.If your dad is in a halfway house,especially after being incarcerated,it means he is going through therapy.Ask him to see if you can attend a session or two with him.Not only will you get a better understanding of what he is going through,but he will also see that you are supportive of his sobriety.Sometimes,just an interest in your parents issues is all it takes.Also,see if he will go to a narcotics anonymous meeting with you.There,you will get resources not only to help his recovery,but you will also get resources to help keep your sanity and to deal with his problems.The best thing?You might actually learn how to handle your mother as well.As far as her not telling you of your dad's incarceration,she was trying to protect you.Instead it left you feeling abandoned and like your dad didn't care.Express to your mom that you are concerned about your dad,as well as her.Make sure she knows that you love her and your dad both,and that just because they can not tolerate one another,you still want both of them in your life.Once she sees that you are going to be faithfull to both parents,she will be more at ease with your decision to have your dad in your life.A lot of her trepidation is the fact that she does not want to see your dad hurt you like he did her in the past.Don't fault her for it,but tell her how you understand how she feels and that you are doing your best to make sure your dad is getting the help he needs to stop him from hurting you.

Answer 4

Whats your dads addiction? You need to confront the people that bother you, i used to think running away from it would take my mind away from things but it made it waaaaay worse in the future. (not saying your running away just don't consider it) get you and the people you want to confront (your mother) into councelling and have a supervised confrontation so it doesn't get out of hand.

good luck