I was lied about a partner and now I'm in deep trouble>?

Question

Recently a friend that I had casual sex told me that he had HIV. Oh I'm gay too. I got tested, and I tested pos for HIV. He told me there's people who are actually willing to become positive, or that I can join him infecting other people. I told him this was wrong.

But should I still have sex with people and just wear a condom? Should I tell people before, after, or never?

I know I was an unsuspecting neg who got pozzed.

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Answer 1

And you'd do that to someone else? Got Morals?

Answer 2

Definitely tell people BEFORE you have sex.

Even if they don't insist, always use a condom. If they have a different strain of HIV or any other type of infection or STD you could get seriously sick

I'm really surprised your doctor hasn't gone into detail about this with you. You need to protect yourself even more than protecting your partner. People with HIV can lead pretty healthy, fairly normal lives these days. But if you expose yourself to other illnesses you can get very very sick and your meds might not be as effective.

Please talk to your doctor or join an HIV support group to make sure you know how to keep yourself healthy.

Always, always be honest and upfront with your partners. You don't want someone else to become unknowingly infected.

And just as a side note, I would stop hanging out with your "friend" that told you to join him in infecting people. It is immoral, illegal, and insane.

Answer 3

You clearly have a good moral compass, so I think you need to put yourself in the position you would like to have been in - make sure you have condoms, and tell people before, so they have the choice whether or not they want to go ahead, with the condom. That way you will always be doing the right thing. If they are already pos, then they might not mind either way, though I know there are different variants of the virus. That really stinks.

Answer 4

Yeah That Is Wrong Dont Do It
Tell Ur Partner If There Willing
To Have Sex With You When U Have HIV
If They Say No Then Understand Them
If They Say Yes Then Use A Condom

Answer 5

Turn your friend into the police. This is classified as attempted murder, because most likely the people he is infecting will die in 10-20 years. I know it may be hard to do this to a friend of yours, but do it anyway. You'll save God knows how many lives by doing so. There are ways to treat HIV if you just recently got diagnosed with it that will prevent your case from getting worse, and potentially turning into a deadly case of AIDS. Sorry you're in this situation. Good luck with life.

Answer 6

It would be wrong on some many levels for you to have sex with other people w/o telling them you are HIV positive. That is not only wrong, but evil. How did you feel to have someone do that to you? Not good. So why would you put someone else through that? What goes around, comes around. You better believe you will pay for it. For one, you need to report your friend for doing this to you and to others, and not be his friend anymore. Why would you want to associate with someone like that. But, I pray you will do the right thing. Sorry to hear about your situation.

Answer 7

Anyone has the right to know the truth ahead of time, would you not have wanted to know the truth before hand? I feel for your situation, I really do, but 2 wrongs don't ever make it right. Br honest, as your "friend" stated, there are those out there that will appreciate your candor and honesty and not care one way or the other. It would certainly be a process of elimination and weeding out those that don't care about you. And I hope your friend knows that it is against the law to knowingly infect someone without giving them prior notification.

Answer 8

You know that a person in some states can actually sue you if you purposely try to infect them with HIV like your idiot friend is saying. You better not be a jack *** either and you better be telling the person before you sleep with them. HIV is serious and you don't need to go around infecting everyone

Answer 9

if you don't tell people and just wear condom you are really taking necessary precautions but what happen if there is an accident and the condom broke, would you now tell the other party..how do you think he will react to the truth, he definitely tell you why did'nt you tell him in the first place, but knowing a lot of people once you tell them beforehand, majority will just avoid you and will not have anything to do with you unless they really like you and think its worth the risk to do it with you, w/ all the necessary precautions then it is this people who will really is worth keeping and trusting, too...so in a way if you tell the truth and those who still wants to be with you are the person that really do care and love you, or you can practice abstinence that is if you really can??? good luck..

Answer 10

This is awful. People who are HIV positive should not be spreading it to unwilling or unknowing victims. It's CRUEL and heartless.

No, you should not join him spreading it.

Yes you can still have sex, but I would suggest that you are ALWAYS protected and protecting. I don't think there's any need to mention it to someone otherwise. (Unless you want to be treated like a sexual leper?)

Answer 11

it is completly morally wrong to further have sexual relations...especially without telling the person the truth beforehand. a condom will not protect your partner. your friend was wrong in not telling you and hiv is a horrible disease that can ruin people's lives. giving it to some one is like ruining their life if they get AIDs. come on don't you know better?