I know this might be the stupidest question to ask but i can't get over somebody for over a year... I need help.... dating other guys does not help and whenever i am with somebody else i can't get him off my mind.
2007-12-18 13:33:58 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm doing research. Is your question for real?
2007-12-18 13:36:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First have you told this person how you feel? and how does this person feel about you?
If you know this person doesnt share the same feelings for you as you do him then its time to move on cause your wasteing your time waiting around. Yeah it may take awhile for your heart to realise it just wasnt meant to be but you cant shut out what else might be out there.
In my experience i waited 3 or 4 years for a guy I felt that we would have made the perfect match. I did tell him how i felt but i guess in all he didnt feel the same way about me or we would be together right now. Last i heard he had wedding plans set and that was 5 years ago. I have been in a relationship now for two and a half years and im content.
Some people never do find their true love they just "settle" some times thats all you can do.
But dont do what i did and wait around hopeing that MAYBE some day he will come around cause your only letting yourself down. Best of luck to you!
2007-12-18 22:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by tess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Dont Get Over It
But U Do Have 2 Move On
N Ull Find That Special One
But Getting Over It, Nver
Its One Of The Special Memories U Have
But U Do Have 2 Move
2007-12-18 21:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Romina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW what a question i dated a beautiful girl 22 years ago thought it would last forever but it didn't i am over her and happily married for 18 years but a day doesn't go buy that i don't think of her. I'm not obsessing just fond memories.if things didn't work out that's the way it goes life moves on the memories are there but you have to move on you will find that right person and find the love you deserve.
2007-12-18 21:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by big nickel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it just doesn't happen. It has been nearly forty years for me.
All I can suggest is to pack it away, call it baggage and store it in the back of a closet. As the the years go by you may be lucky and your trips to the closet grow less frequent. The trouble is it will always be a part of you if the the love you feel is genuine. If you still go to the closet in 10 years the love was real and you will probably die with it...
2007-12-18 21:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i went thru the same thing. First of all, closure is an amazing thing. I broke someone heart 2 years ago, and this past summer i decided to confront him. But, all that time in between, I wanted him back so badly, Id be with other guys and realize it wasnt right, cuz i couldnt stop thinking of this one. This summer i asked if there was ever a chance for us, and he said no. Trust was a huge issue. I cried and screamed (privately =] ) but i let it all out. and then...i realized. wow? i dont really love him like that anymore...it was just closure, it was the knowing that its not going to happen. Now we are becoming friends, and who knows where that will go.
I cant honestly say i dont like him anymore...but im not in as deep as a i was
I know your story is probably different. but if you dont have closure, you should search for that. It makes a huge difference. If you had closure, and you know there is no way to be with him, then its the pain youll have to go thru. It may take quite awhile, but youll find someone who makes you happy, and makes you realize you dont need the other one anymore
2007-12-18 21:41:43 · answer #6 · answered by arizonababe11 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, and avoid thinking about and seeing that person as much as you can. Try to find another person that you believe is the right one for you, and will support you when you are in need and that will fill the gap of love that you feel for the other person , but DON'T PLAY WITH THAT PERSON'S FEELINGS, just to get over the other parson you are obsess with. After all it might just be an obsession!
2007-12-18 21:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Hector C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl let me tell you, i have the same problem even though i am married because a guy i dated before i met my husband, the two of us never really broke it off with each other and to this day i still think of him and that was almost 3 years ago, so even though you like this guy you are going to have to put him on the back burner. and go for some one else there are so many guys out there.
so go out there and look you will find mr right
2007-12-18 21:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by carriendewayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the military for three years when I received a "dear john" letter i dated for almost four years. I was too proud to go to her and try to get her back. But luckily, she solved the problem by simply wriying me a letter saying she loved me! I still had six months to spend in New Guinea before I could see her again but I was a lot happier!
2007-12-18 21:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first bit is 100% correct. Go out and buy a whole heap of timber, some nails and a hammer. Then sit down and build a bridge, then get over it.
2007-12-18 21:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fixated on this guy. If you have never dated him or really know him you have a fantasy about who he is. You have imagined him to be something (that he could never live up to in REAL life)
He is attractive to you and you have made this fantasy person out of him. If you ever really had a chance to know him you would see he is just like other guys dressed in a pretty package.
2007-12-18 21:37:44 · answer #11 · answered by luteachris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋