How not to pick up the phone & call?

Question

I have anxiety sometime. When I'm down the only thing that seems to help it is reassurance from friends. But I depend on my friends too much and share too many of my problems with them. I don't want to drive everyone away :(

Also, the anxiety sometimes gets in the way of romance. For example, sometimes it can be helpful to relax and give things time and space...But this is hard for me! I hate to go for long stretches without phone or in-person contact, but some people like to take dating slow. This drives me nuts. I am not a "Rules" kind of girl...but wonder if being less available would increase my appeal by keeping things exciting.

Anyway, how can I avoid dialing the phone in these situations?

Answer 1

You're preaching to the choir!! I know exactly how you feel!! But it helps me 2 either turn off or unplug the phone and put it away. Take a nap or go 2 bed. I have anxiety as well, so I know that this wil work! I have terrible anxiety issues, and sometimes I would even wake up and get out of the bed and call some one. But now I have gotten in the habit of leaving the phone out of my room and somewhere else. If you're anything like me, you will weigh the options of getting out of your bed to go wherever the phone is, or staying in the bed and just meditating on the issue yourself. Most of the time the meditation will work. If you do that at night, every night, gradually you will become self sufficient. THATS THE BEST FEELING EVER!!! Good Luck

Answer 2

I think u should get a book or diary or whatever.(i know it sounds childish....) Instead of dropping all this news on ur friends, write it down. It will make things muchh better. So give it a try, if it doesnt work, then try to do something new. Like something u've never done before...
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Answer 3

I totally understand. I just usually talk to my mom about it, or my aunt (I'm really close with her). If you feel you burden your friends with your problems, then take a step back and realize that you could be taking things too sensitively and emotionally. That's what happened to me and I feel a lot better now.