too much attention ?

Question

im only 13, and before my first boyfriend (who wasnt that great of a boyfriend) i didn't talk to very many guys. after me and my bf broke up, i got tons of guys asking me out and flirting with me.... im thinking that my ex probably told people things we didnt even do. and some guys are even calling me a slu**. i havent even had my first kiss yet!
and a ton of other rumors are going around.
what should i do?

Answer 1

if have a boy - friend ( not in serious relationship ) ask him to pretend as your lover and about the first kiss,choose the right guy and don't waste the beautiful memory.or else,tell your parent or teachers about this matter-it will become a very terrible mistakes if u don't take care of it....

Answer 2

Unfortunately, at your age, there is no way to stop people from starting horrible rumors about you. Make sure that your friends know that it's not true and if anyone confronts you, you tell them that they've been misinformed. If you're angry and don't care how it affects their opinion of you, congratulate them on being sheep who can't think for themselves.

I will assure you that it will pass. In 10 years, it won't mean a thing. I think 13 was the worst age I ever was and almost entirely due to rumor mills. Ignore them the best that you can and if it gets really hard, consider talking to a counselor about it. When you hit high school proper, just concentrate on making friends, good grades and join any club you have interests for--that's a great way to find more friends. Before you know it, you'll have gotten past the idiots spreading rumors and everyone will have forgotten them.

Answer 3

Yes, unfortunately people spread rumors when they feel they have gotten the short end and need to feel on top. But being a liar and causing havoc with rumors always backfires. And retaliation backfires also.

So, be the bigger person here and ignore the guys and allow time to pass. Rumors die when other rumors are created.

You were right you are only 13 and should have so many girly, sporty things to participate in. Didn't give these young boys the satisfaction. They have not a clue about what they are suppose to do with girls their age anyway.

If the situation continues to unnerve you, have a heart to heart talk with your parent or consultant a teacher or counselor in confidence.

Hope this helps....From Ageless Wisdom

Answer 4

oh that sounds terrible! people can be soo cruel. What you should NOT do, is start making rumors about him. That can make people talk about you even more.
Try you best to get everyone to understand that nothing did happen between you two.
Situations like this can be hard to get out of, but trust me, you'll get through it. Make sure you really know a person before you go out with them, that why your your reputation wont be hurt. Make sure its someone you can see yourself being with for awhile, not someone that you'll be with for a week, and then the next week you'll be with a new guy. That is not the way to go. Make sure your first boyfriends are special, because you'll remember them your whole life. Especially your first kiss! I still remember mine, and it was one of the most amazing feelings I've ever had. I'm in high school now, and my first kiss, is still currently my boyfriend, and hes the only guy i've ever kissed, and I wouldn't have it any other way!

Answer 5

Sounds like your ex may have stirred up a hornet's nest. Do your best to ignore the pettiness and viciousness going on around you, and it will eventually stop. Do you have girlfriends you could spend time with, away from this bad crowd? Get involved in some school activities to take your focus off the bad energy, and tread very cautiously the next time you think you might be ready for another relationship. The teen years are a time of enormous insecurity for many. Recognize those who are level-headed and focused on studies, and stay away from those who behave aggressively in order to try and be the most popular kid at school.

Answer 6

Ignore them, hold your head high, and breathe a sigh of relief that you got away from your as*hole ex-bf before you did kiss him! It will all blow over soon, so don't do anything to fan the flames - like going out with some one else. Wait until you are ready. You sound like a classy girl with good self esteem, so don't dignify these silly rumours with a response, and don't lower yourself to retaliate. Very calmly correct people if they say anything to your face.

However, attention is not all bad, and can be quite fun, for a while:

"There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about." Oscar Wilde

Answer 7

See if you can find out what he did or did not say to others, maybe through friends. Ultimately, rumors are just rumors although they can be upsetting... your regular behavior and actions will show much brighter than one guy's stories, if that is what happened.

If you find out that he is telling tall tales, you might confront him and ask for a public apology of some kind. Or stand in the parking lot and scream epithets and tell everyone he is a liar and a loser. ;) But don't jump to conclusions until you know for sure, and don't let the rumors affect you too much. Who you are is more important than who others might think you are.

Answer 8

Ignore the rumors. People are always going to talk about you. Even when your grown up and married. Don't say anything to the people that confront you. Just tell them that your personal life is your business not theirs. End of story.

Your so young. Focus on school and getting good grades. Enjoy going out with your girlfriends and having a good time. You are only young once. Make the best of it!

Answer 9

Don't dignify any of the rumours with any kind of explanation. Just look the person straight in the eye and say "what you think you heard is untrue" and move on. Don't try to say anything else, don't try to make him look bad, just speak the truth and take the high road. If you sink to his level (and say things about him) you'll just wind up looking bad. Maybe you should take a few months off the dating scene and let things pass... people will forget all about it when the next couple breaks up. Hang in there, this too shall pass. Good luck.

Answer 10

Leave the guys alone for awhile. They are young and lie about what they do with the ladies.. Go out with the girls, join a after school club, read alot. You are worth waiting for. Don't get pushed into giving in.