he said if i converted like his mother did we'd be fine. im not going to , should i accept him as just a friend or give him the boot for not respecting my beliefs
2007-12-18 12:50:13 · 27 answers · asked by Suzanne C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He believes that you'll go to hell unless you convert so he puts as much pressure as he can.. How can he respect your beliefs? That will mean that he doesn't believe in anything.
2007-12-18 12:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Aleks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be a deal breaker, if you are not interested in converting, and he can not accept you being a different religion then where is this relationship going? Some people are able to overcome, get married, have kids, and raise them to understand both religions in the household, when they are old enough they decide for themselves what religious beliefs they want to follow. If this is absolutely something your boyfriend cannot do, then it may be time to find a new boyfriend.
2007-12-18 14:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by fortillfriday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you two are just not compatible. It doesn't make either of you right or wrong - it's just part of life.
You can't assume that because he wants you to convert he doesn't respect your beliefs. You can respect someone's beliefs but completely disagree with them. It's not at all unusual or wrong for someone to only want to marry someone whose beliefs are similar to their own. If you have huge religious differences, these differences can create conflict in many areas of your life - especially if you decide to have children.
I would vote for keeping him as a friend if you love and value him as a person. There are plenty of people who are good as friends, but not as a couple. Sounds like this is the case for you.
All the best.
2007-12-19 08:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by SE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this means he doesn't respect your beliefs. It is against his religion to marry someone who is not Muslim. Therefore, if you are also strong in your Catholic beliefs and unwilling to convert, the relationship simply cannot work. Try to be just friends instead, and find someone you are more religiously compatible with.
2007-12-18 16:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a really devout catholic then you would probably understand where he's coming from (assuming if he's a devout muslim). both of you want the other to convert. if neither of you wants to convert to the other than its a problem. i think you should give him to boot, personally. i`m sure you'll be able to find someone who is both catholic and respects your beliefs and loves you for it. like they say, let something go and if it comes back to you it was yours and always will be yours. i mean, if he REALLY loves you he'll realize what a jerk he's been and he'll do whatever it takes to make you happy! good luck! =)
2007-12-18 13:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you do not sound like you understand the situation at all. Muslims are forbidden to marry outside their religion. It has nothing to do with respect. You should spend some time really learning about Muslim faith, and it's influence on marriage and family life. It's quite different than the Catholic religion.
2007-12-18 12:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by mom 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Move on. That's one of the most fundamental things which is important in a marriage. Doesn't mean he doesn't respect your beliefs, he just needs someone who has his. You need to respect that of him. I made sure I married someone of the same religion and similar ethnicity simply because I knew the values I wanted in a marriage and with a future family.
2007-12-19 01:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way this is a relationship that will never work since neither of you are willing to compromise regarding your spiritual beliefs and you really shouldn't have to. So if you respect him and want to be friends great, but either way you need to end the romantic side of your relationship before it turns ugly and you end up wasting a big part of your life!
2007-12-18 13:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Or maybe he should give you the boot for not respecting his?????? the boot can be worn by each of you, it looks like.
He won't convert....you won't convert....he won't marry you....you marry in his faith you're excommunicated...looks like a stale mate to me with each expecting the other to make the sacrifice by turning their back on their faith.
Be friends without benefits, please...or move on. Both of you just aren't meant to be a couple.
2007-12-18 13:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 21:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by simpler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋