my bf cheated on me 2 times but say wont do again we ben 2getha 4 2 years.i love him alot what do i do?

Question

i need advice otha than follow your heart i need straight^ good advice

Answer 1

he cheated once, you forgave him..shame on him...he cheated again, you forgave him..shame on YOU..thats how i see it, hun..

quit acting like a stupid girl and leave this guy..otherwise you are a glutton for punishment..people will only feel bad for you for so long before they start to say "he cheats on you, but you stay with him so whatever makes you happy.."

i used to be like your bf..it was great when a girl would fall in love with me after i said a few things right, at that point its almost like you can get away with anything..

if you choose to stay then quit complaining cuz you already know you are with a cheater...and ive noticed a cheater is usually a liar too (think about it) so imagine the things dont you still dont know or how often he has probably lied to you..its just not good thoughts, right?

just leave the guy..sure it will still hurt and you might be lonely for a while..it will be hard like that but thats how you know you are doing the right thing..if it was always easy to do the right thing we would all be saints..just my thoughts, good luck with your decision..

Answer 2

Just because he cheated on you don't mean the relationship is over. Sure the trust has been broken. If he was the one, who told you, and not somebody else, then he is telling you that he is sincer. You now need to sit down with him and explane that there now will be some special rules he must follow. They are as follows : When he tells you he will be at a certain place and time, you will find a way to contact him or find some other way to make sure he is where he said he would be. If he told you he would be back at a certain time, and if he is not, you must check up on him. You must do what ever it takes to build back the trust that is broken. If he has a problem with any of this, then he is not worth the trouble. Always remind him that he is the one who cheated. With this in mind, you must also tell him that you would expect the same treatment if it was you who cheated on him. There is no relationship that is beyound repair. The effort will need to be sincer on both parties involved. He has no right to get mad or angry when you tell him what he has got to do. The same would go for you, if the cheating was by you.
After a while when you are confident that he is being completely honest, then you can, and should keep checking up on him, but not as often. Slowy he will realize that you still love him and that he will not break the trust anymore. At some point you will stop doing this, you will be the one who makes the decision on when to stop. If he nags you to stop, then a red flag should flash in front of your eyes. This means that he is not willing to be trusted anymore. All of this will take time and effort from the both of you. If the relationship is worth keeping together, then the both of you will need to work together.
God Bless Both of You.
Always be good to yourself.

Answer 3

Straight good advise.... dump his A($$$$).

If he is cheating on you now, oh, good when or if you ever marry. "Once a cheater, always one...." You have nooooo idea how really true this is. In fact, here are the four things my mom started hammering into my head when I was 13.

1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. Choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no children until your bond is strong, and have no more than you yourself can support. You may just have to
3. At any and all costs finish your education to qualify for those high paying jobs. It is likely that you will work sometime during your marriage, probably for decades…. Get paid for it. And remember, your kids and your education are forever…. Husbands, lovers and promises are not!!
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you are sure you will never need it. You absolutely will, and the more the better.


You have made no major mistakes yet in your life--- like doing something really stupid and think you can trap some guy by getting preggers..... Learn from these... Keep these always in your head... and you'll have a great life too, not like some of these messes you read on this site, and you'll be able to avoid the traps before you get even close to one....
Good luck, hon

Sent to you with love from my mom

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say, but you have to leave him. I know that you love him a lot, but if you keep giving him more and more chances, he'll just keep cheating and cheating. Trust me, you do not want to get hurt. There is absolutely no excuse for cheating, and if anyone else thinks there is one, I would very much like to know. I hate seeing girls get hurt by these players, so if you don't wanna get hurt, I suggest you follow my advice.

Answer 5

DUMP HIM! My second wife cheated on me and I forgave her. She then cheated 7 more times. Once a cheater always a cheater is extremely true. He is making a fool out of you. Also the first wife cheated 3 times, she promised never to do it again after the first time.

Answer 6

You might hear stories of husbands repeatedly forgiving their wives for infidelity, but the only reason anyone will do this is because of doubt in finding a new mate. I'm this way. All I really wanted was for my girl to keep coming back to me. I knew she was going out every night and getting with guys, which was a huge health risk to me, but I put up with it because she was and is the only girl in my life. She left anyway, for good, and look! There is no other girl afterall.

Answer 7

Get out now! It wont be easy but it doesn't matter if he cheats again or not you will always be thinking he is and that's a horrible spot to be in. Also if he has done it twice then he probably thinks he can just smooth things over just like before if he wants to do it again..and again..and again.....sorry

Answer 8

Give him another chance. All that's going to happen is he will keep cheating or have you not figured that out already. Guys cheat for one reason. Because they can. The thing is they're so dumb they always get caught. If you can tolerate his cheating ways for the rest of your life then why not stay with him.

Answer 9

let him go. men really don't get things until they don't have it any more. you must understand that one time u can get through but 2 means something is wrong. there comes a time when u have to what ur mind tells u to do, no emotion involved. u will never trust him again i'm sure and u shouldn't. ur heart needs to heal so that a man that wants u can have u and treat u like a queen

Answer 10

cheating 2 times... sound like he is confusing what he really wants... the real question you really have to ask yourself.. you want to spend your life with this BF that can't protect your feelings... the more he cheating on you the more hurt to your feelings.... trust is the issue here...

you need to look at yourself and what makes you happy in long term and can your BF makes you happy... love is very powerful and so is Trust...

hope you make right choices for your life and your future