My boyfriend is a strong southern baptist, and I'm bi. How do I tell him without loosing him? I really do love him
2007-12-18 11:38:42 · 18 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him the way you feel you should
you'd rather lose him than lose what you really are.
2007-12-18 11:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry too much about it. When you're in a deep conversation and you know the time is right just let him know that you're bisexual but that you don't want it to effect the relationship and you just wanted to let him know so that there are no secrets between the both of you. After all, you've always been bi since you've been with him. But now you're just choosing to tell him. He might not agree with it, but he'll understand. If he doesn't then, he probably isn't the right guy for you. Best of luck!
2007-12-18 19:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can either leave the girls alone, or you can tell him. Are you sure you want him? Cuz he would flip if he found out later about your past, too! He reallu needs to know if you expect him to let your keep a girl on the side while being "monogamous" with him - because to straights, that's cheating. So you need to figure out what you want, then tell him what you want and he can figure out if he can work with it or not. But if he is really uncomfortable - he is unlikely to do well with the knowledge even if he initially seems OK about it.
2007-12-18 19:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to. Unless you desire to be with members of the same sex throughout the course of your relationship with him, it's unimportant. I've had lesbian/bisexual friends have successful relationships with opposite sex partners, that lasted years. when the couple split, the lesbian/bisexual female dated whatever sex she felt like. If your bf loves you as much as you love him, he won't care. And if he does care, he does not deserve your love. Your ideals should be somewhat compatible for your love to last. Just as an atheist and a hard core christian could never coexist in harmony, neither could a bisexual with someone who disapproves of that lifestyle.
2007-12-18 19:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by melissa m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont want to lose him, dont tell him. i know thats gonna feel wrong, ur hiding something from him, and i feel ur pain. i have friends who r bi. but it would hurt more to lose him, so if u really love him, keep it a secret-at least for now.
2007-12-18 19:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by purple_daydream94 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and get a bi guy, or your future sex life with others is fooked.
2007-12-18 19:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves u that much, he'll still love u, but y wud u bi? if u have someone who pleasures u as u want them to i dnt think u shud be a bi.
2007-12-18 19:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by nadesha k 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you love him then the fact that your bi wont come up unless you break up
2007-12-18 19:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Nicholas B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better not tell him , no decent guy wants a long term relationship with a dike , it will cause to much drama that he won't get from a straight girl....
2007-12-18 19:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by Confused 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
iF HE really loves you he wont care. If he does care and you lose him, thats good cuz any man with a problem like that is NOT worth your time babe!! Good Luck
2007-12-18 19:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by IvyMarie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋