I'm moving from Detroit to New Orleans so my fiancé can be with her family. But then I remember my family and friends and have since then become what I feel is depressed.
2007-12-18 11:26:55 · 18 answers · asked by Drew K 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
it's called 'life', mate. You must, for your own mental health, decide what is best for you, whilst making concessions to a loved one... There is no easy answer.. it's part of growing up, and life experience. And, I HONESTLY don't mean that in a condescending way... Good luck..... And remember, this may be difficult now... but is making you the 'man' that you are to be!!
2007-12-18 11:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to feel down because you'll miss your own family and friends, but you'll visit, right? It's always scary to leave your comfort zone, especially since your fiance will have ready made supports and will not share your perspective. If your depression has become pronounced, maybe it is your way of expressing (to yourself) your second thoughts about moving. Think about the specifics of the situation and weigh it out. Are there more good reasons to go than not? Does your fiance have good reason to go? (e.g., does she need to care for a family member?) Do you really want to leave everything you know to be with her?
It's completely normal to question your commitment at this time. Every relationship goes through a period where you realize you are going to have to make sacrifices, and that's usually when you discover whether you are deeply in love or not. As long as things are going well and everything is comfortable and easy, you don't really have an opportunity to get to the bottom of those feelings. So seize the opportunity to do so before you move. If you feel she is truly the one for you, it could help change your attitude about moving.
2007-12-18 19:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by lisawithcats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NOTHING wrong with you!! Its a natural feeling. Dont be so hard on yourself. Remeber once you get settled in you can invite your friends and family to come and visit.
Just make a point to keep in touch and it will help you relax and feel better about moving and starting a new life with your fiancee.
I keep in touch with my family in friends through the computer, phone and letters and its really nice and makes a Big difference.
Just because your moving doesnt mean that your family and friends wont be apart of your life. good luck.
2007-12-18 19:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by morningstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it...everything that she has gained from this move, you have lost.
It will take you time to adjust and find friendships and be familiar with this new area. It's natural. I moved a lot in the military and with my father when he was military.
It won't be the same, but keep an open mind to new experiences and explore your new world down there. Besides, you've got a hot fiance down there who loves you.
2007-12-18 19:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can certainly understand your point of view for the distances between cities in the States appear immence in relation to the geography of the UK. Remember, you have a choice so make the right decision after consulting your conscience.Good luck and have a Happy Christmas.
2007-12-18 19:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not depression. It's just that you are sad about leaving your family and friends. This is normal and natural. Don't worry about it. Separation is never easy.
2007-12-18 19:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New Orleans is not in Mississippi! It's in Louisiana! You must be depressed!!
2007-12-18 19:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Buzzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be happy that you're with your wife. I consider you lucky.
Its probably just home sickness. I had it once when i was little when i spent a summer with my stupid dad. You get used to it after a while then you never get it again.
2007-12-18 19:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you feel is natural because you miss your family. Just don't let it get you down to much.
2007-12-18 19:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Spirit Dancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-12-18 19:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by BILL 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋