In previous questions , I told you about my situation , that the guy I didnt love wanted to follow me . You guys told me to calle to police , I threatened him if he dared to come over my house to meet me , I would call the police . But he didnt stop and he wanted to meet my mom to tell everything about it . I'm such a fool that I told him my weakness point that I dont tell anything or any relationship to Mom so he said because i didnt agree to love him , he'll do anything to get me . It has gone too far . What can i do now . Plz help me !!!!
2007-12-18 11:22:51 · 30 answers · asked by ngocphuong1989 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am concerned that he has now threatened to do anything to get you because you did not love him. You are absolutely right now when you say it has gone too far and I completely agree with you. So listen:1) it is time to tell your parents about this nut job. I don't know why you don't want your mom to know about your dates and dating habits unless you have done something you are ashamed of or scared about.2) Even if you have done things to be ashamed of , the stakes are now higher and your life may potentially be at stake.3)Bring in your father and any male friend and/or family member to have a talk with him4) Report--not bluff---him to the police. If possible ,also get a restraining order against him that will bar him from coming within 1000 to 5000 feet of you or he will be arrested on the spot.5) try not to go out by your self alone, be in a group preferably with guys.Please, don,'t hesitate in taking the actions recommended because of pride, ego, or falsely thinking that your parents will not understand. They love you and want you safe and sound and nothing else is as important to them . I wish you the best and keep safe and keep us informed about your doings .God bless you.
2007-12-18 12:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually people like this suffer from mental illness. You should tell your parents right away, because this is not normal behavior. If your parents don't believe you, keep telling them until they do. Otherwise, tell a trustworthy adult your issue: such as a police officer or a very close relative. Nobody needs to go physical on someone. Your Dad might understand a little bit more, but call a police station just in case. 911 is very reliable. Don't come into any contact with your brother until this issue is resolved. It'll help not to touch anything that belongs to him and tell your friend not to either, just in case.
2016-05-24 23:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never threaten any one. Just call the police. Get out of the relationship fast. Confine in your mom and friends. The more people know about the trouble you are having with this guy, the better. Controlling and abusive people like to isolate their victims from family and friends.This is not a game, so stop treating it as such, you could be in danger. Something tells me that you are enjoying his attention, why would you tell him your weakness? I repeat, this is not a game, get out of that relationship, your life depends on it.
2007-12-18 11:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by Nettajay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He surely didn't believed you when you said that you will call the police. Call them then. Don't just say it, act! See your alternatives like obtaining a restraining order. Don't forget to record the time and sayings of this man if he still bother you. But most of all, you got to get out of here. It's the holidays now, so go on holidays to ease the confrontation before it's too late. Change your habits by changing your address. Ask someone else to move your stuffs for you while you'll be in a safer place!
I wish I could say more, but get out of this place or go leave with a friend for a while.
2007-12-18 11:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by athanasecj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try actually calling the police and maybe telling your mom about this one situation because this can go farther and get way out of hand to a point where you may not want it to go...restraining orders...tell friends never go anywhere alone(the buddie system)..and so on just do anything and everythign you can think of to get rid of him.
2007-12-18 11:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by peaches 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't threaten him this time. Next time he tries to come over really call the polic and get a restraining order against him. Tell the police exactly what he told you. He's stalking you and that's dangerous. Tell your parents what he is doing, and they may call the police for you and get a restraining order against him.
PROTECT YOURSELF. CALL THE POLICE ASAP.
2007-12-18 11:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by dg2003 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
did you call the police or just tell him you would??? you need to 1) Discuss this situation with your Mom NOW (would you rather the police come tell your mom your in the hospital due to this guy??) 2) Go to the police and request that they speak with him and tell him to leave you alone 3) if you are in fear for your safety, go to your local courthouse and get a CIVIL Protection Order and 4) Call your local domestic violence helpline....even if you haven't been phsyically abused they CAN HELP YOU with emotionally controlling men....they are trained for this....
PLEASE get help!
2007-12-18 11:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by misstiaemail 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom she was your age once you don't have to share every detail but tell her you feel like your in danger. A guy has taken an interest in you that is NOT mutual and he is tring to trap you with lies. He will make anything up to blackmale you and you want her to help get him to leave you alone. You wont be in trouble if you clue her in. Your safty is more important to her than anything else.
2007-12-18 11:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay. first, call the police and say, I have a question:
and ask them if its possible to not tell ur mom about it. (pretending you are a friend of sum1 in ur position)
and then if they say "no we wont tell" then you tell them about ur situation. The guy u dont love wont even know they are on their way.. and you know what. This is abuse. I would focus on getting this freak out of your life before he threatens you any further, even if you mom finds out. trust me. its worth it
2007-12-18 11:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't threaten to call the police...actually do it..You can get an order against him so that he can't go near your house..if you have this order and he comes near you, he will be arrested...GET A RESTRAINING ORDER TODAY BEFORE THINGS GET UGLY..THEY CERTAINLY WONT GET BETTER IF YOU DON'T TAKE ACTION
2007-12-18 11:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋