Would you start over with someone who have hurt you very much? Thank you?

Question

Why and why not?

Answer 1

Unless you can totally and completely forgive the hurt caused to you then no. What happens is the resentment that has been created will envelop you and all future arguments.
If the hurt is so great that it out weighs trust then move on.
My opinion in your case is move on. You have a great deal have life to live and learn about. Move on to someone who can be a good partner.

Answer 2

Why would you ? do you honestly want to go through that again ? and can you clearly remember what it was like during this time of hurt ?

And if you can answer any of these questions, then the last one would be,

What advice would you give to anyone close to you, who would ask of you the same question ????

So many people, especially wives, go back to their husbands because of the kids, or frightened about being alone, or just being left without love, and men, do the same thing, for all of the above, or just that they think 'it's the right thing to do'.

If you don't have a valid reason, and you can move on with your life, then don't look back, go forward.

Hope you make the right choice, that's what it comes down to is choice ! and only you can decide.

a friend x

Answer 3

To be honest I could go either way. It depends on the situation and who was doing the hurting. You have to ask yourself is this really someone you love or just someone you thought you loved? See what I mean. Sometimes we think we love someone but we really don't. Like maybe someone you thought you were friends with only later you realize that they aren't really your friends. You may have been friends with them for all different reasons. Only your true friends will stick by you.The one that have always been there for you like your true friends and family are people I would forgive. Chances are they didn't mean to hurt you and you have probably hurt them at some point too.

If it were me I would give them a 2nd chance but... it's up to you.

Answer 4

I know it is water under the bridge, but there is nothing as dead as a dead romance. If you intend to ignore this and you are entitled to do so please take care to ensure you are not hurt again. So a very guarded friendship maybe ( but don't) at the most. Romance forget it. You are still very vulnerable so you need to take even greater care

Answer 5

i depends on how bad they hurt me. But let me tell you something the last girlfriend i had broke up with me like every other day for a month and at first she would ask me to go back out with her but then i found myself attached to her and was begging her to come back to me. It was horrible my whole summer was horrible because my heart was always wanting her so bad but my head said no and I'm glad now because im with the best girl ever so dont play his games

Answer 6

I would not, because I feel that if they did not care enough for you to do that hurtful thing in the first place, then he will more than likely not think twice about doing it again.

Answer 7

No why would you want to leave that door open to contue to be hurt or even the chance to be hurt i know that eveyone deserves a second chance but we are talkng about your feels here

Answer 8

No, why? cos a leopard don't change it's spots, just a free bit of advice from an ole professional in this game.

Answer 9

I dont think anyone would answer yes to this question as they would simply be seen as fools. Its hard to know what anyone would actually do when sat in the boat... because its so easily said than done!

Answer 10

well i have already gone back to a guy that really hurt me and he tryed to twist every thing round and say i had hurt him. but i am just so unhappy trying to find a way happeness