My boyfriend is 25 and I am 23. Should I pay for my half when we do things together?

Question

I heard one guy complaining that his gf never paid for anything....I didn't think it was expected of the girl to do so. Should I start paying for my half ?

Answer 1

A partnership should be just that, two people working together and sharing; sometimes you guys split the expenses, sometimes he treats you and sometimes you treat him. It just makes it fair and balanced like a relationship is supposed to be.

Answer 2

I think alot of these people answering do not bother to read what other say.. if they did.. they would be appauled like I am at some of the responces.

First what ever issues they have.. are not yours.. so don't rely on those answers....

However the others that actually give advice are worth the read I think.. its interesting to know where peoples minds are at.

Now my mind on this issue... is only one.

A man is not a piggy bank. I do think that on the first date who ever does the asking should pay. No one not the guy or the girl should be pressed into payment.

As the relationship goes on.. I think one should always offer to pay there half.. or like one other person said.. share the dates expenses... if you take him some where you should pay... if he takes you some here he should.. or .. you pay one time.. he pays the next...

I have never been the women to want my guy to pay for everything.. especially if I really like him.. why in the world would I want him to go broke? lol I would think that would put a stinge on the relationship. lol

but really ... at least offer to pay... if he refuses and is set on paying.. fine... some guys either have pride in being able to make you smile... or are just nice guys. Then let him do as he wills... But always be grateful for what he does.. and yes... offer to pay.. even if he says No.. atleast he knows you appriecate the awesome way he treats you.

Hope this helps.

*hugs*

P.S. 25? 23? 35? lol age doesn't matter unless you are one of the few lucky ones... you can be broke at any age. LOL :) (this thing really needs Smilies)

Answer 3

Before I respond directly to your question, let me make certain points .We now leave in an era when the sexes are supposed to be equal . That means that the old traditional thinking has to go. Women can not call for equality then say but------.As you indicated in your piece , you did not expect as the girl to have to pay.If true equality is to be achieved, then women must be willing also to be treated equally when it comes to dating, marriage, divorce, alimony, child support,the law, and so on. At the time when women were not in the work force, it made absolute sense even as a chivalrous action. Today, you have women in the work force making more money than guys who still expect unequal treatment. Why can't women take a guy out, pay for the date , and do everything guys traditionally do including picking them up . Isn't that what true equality is all about? Unless the guy declines and insists on picking up the tab, women should start stepping up to the plate. I think that is a very admirable trait and quality in today's woman and believe a lot of men feel the same way.Women, the ball is in your court---don't offer to go dutch (or just pay your own way) ; instead, truly become independent and equal and pay for every thing. Let me hear what women think out there----LADIES!

Answer 4

I don't know about goin dutch when in a relationship(lame)

I am 23 as well and my boyfriend is 25 and most of the time he pays for everything....even though we both have our own money-but sometimes I do treat and I enjoy it and he really appreciates that-and I like treating like 1/4 times we do something cause he does so much including showering me with gifts=) So yeah I say treat sometime but paying for your half is wack!

Answer 5

If he takes YOU out, then he pays. If you take HIM out, then you pay. If he decides to take you out somewhere, then he's paying, but if you ask him to go with you to a certain restaurant you like, or to do soemthing you want to do, don't expect him to pay at least offer to pay. Every other time you're out, just offer to pick up the tab for the food, and if he insists on paying at least leave the tip.

My guy and I never really talked about it, usually he pays for dinner and I pay for drinks afterwards. I'm a working professional, I can afford to pay for our entertainment too. Why should it all be on him? Relationships are 50/50. When both individuals hold full time jobs, and can support themselves, one partner should never have to pay more than the other.

Answer 6

i guys insist on paying fine, if you believe in feminism, equality and sexual liberation. It goes with the territory. That's where all these feminists become hypocritical. There mouths run like moters when it comes to feminism, yet they become outraged at the thought of paying their own half, never mind half, guys have been paying it all for years. I am not saying you should thats between you and the bf, but you ought to surprise him now and then and treat him.

Answer 7

Guys appreciate a girl who at least offers to pay for things when they do things together. The least you could do is offer to pay for some of the things you do together, most times they won't let you pay (until you're together for awhile then next thing you know YOU'RE paying for everything)...

Never mind. Just sit back and enjoy being spoiled.

Answer 8

of path you adult adult males would desire to have pronounced this way till now all this time has surpassed in the journey that your guy is into marriage than it quite is not in any respect going to ensue. If he has instructed you he does not % marriage he's the two dedication phobic or merely does not have self assurance in the sanctity of marriage. you may desire to % if residing jointly as a pair is sufficient for you he's additionally against commencing a relatives and all that so yet another query to ask him his perspectives on having young little ones?. surely he has already given you his answer your the single that would desire to decide leave him and detect a guy that needs marriage and all the different stuff or stay and be dissappointed that he won't in any respect propose or perhaps have young little ones?. Why have a protracted engagement you have already been jointly for merely approximately 5yrs. Have a protracted sufficient engagement to devise the marriage and reception, and doubtless a honeymoon. it quite is demanding to tell in the journey that your BF is merely being smart approximately waiting or merely dropping it sluggish. i think of your BF would desire to know if he needs in his existence continuously or if it somewhat is merely a fling. additionally somewhat know reason he would desire to no longer pop the query and than merely do the engagement component besides. P.S. i'd refrain from the shifting in jointly previous to marriage it would desire to furnish him the belief your ok merely residing jointly devoid of tying the knot. i think of you have gotten made a mistake for one mexicans are extensive relatives human beings if he has relatives that thinks your relationship is incorrect you may desire to be his college booty call.

Answer 9

That depends on his and your moral values. If you believe the man should pay for everything, then make him pay. If he won't pay your half, then he's not for you. If he doesn't mind, then don't change. The only time it really doesn't matter is when you have a joint checking account, lol. Then it shouldn't matter at all.

Answer 10

I think you should start paying half of the expenses. You'll maintain more independence and self-respect, and I think he'll appreciate it. You'll also be abe to do lots more together.

This assumes that you're roughly equal in income or wealth... If he's a Rothchild or something, then let him pay; If you are loaded, then write me:)