We work together and he has two kids. I do not have any. We get along well. I just dont think I'm up for the darma of the divorce or the kids. Anybody have any ideas about how these things usually play out. Should I run now?
2007-12-18 09:48:27 · 4 answers · asked by Vicki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're not ready for the responsibility of getting to know his kids and if the relationship moves farther, helping him raise them (if they are small) then you shouldn't go any furthur. The drama may or may not be a possibility, but when you date a man with kids, his kids come with the whole package. It's down to what point you are in your life and what you're ready for. That's really for you to decide, but don't force it if you think you're not going to be happy.
And to add, he's just freshly getting out of a marriage, his kids feelings are still raw and he's probably emotional, you don't want to be his rebound. If you really see yourself dating him, just keep it at a friend level, get to know him over time and see where things lead.
2007-12-18 09:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Vanity Affaire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, I am getting a divorce and have been trying for about eight months now. I have not been with my ex husband for about 2 years. We were seperated after he cheated on me. So, once I moved away from him, and yes we have two children together, I found the best man ever. I knew him in high school but never got the chance to date him for long. Well we have been together for 1 year and six months. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He has stuck by my side for this whole thing. I am still not divorced. So I dont think that there is anything wrong with dating him if he is getting a divorce. If the papers are filed then there is no turning back for him. As for my new boyfriend he loves my kids. Kids are easy to win over. Especially if they are young. I hope that this works out for you. I think that you should keep trying at this.
2007-12-18 17:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by cherryinked 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. First of all, he is still married, hello. Second, first relationships after divorces are usually throw-aways - very intense, but burn out fast. Third, why would you want to DATE someone you WORK with? You don't sh*t where you eat, rule #1!! Fourth, if you are not sure about the kids, you owe it to them NOT to get involved, also, see #2.
2007-12-18 17:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know the answer. If is dating you that quickly, he is more than likely not a very good pick.
2007-12-18 17:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by pistonclash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋