I'm 27 and my ex is 31. I loved him very much during our 6 year relationship, but my feelings have faded (which is why he is still an "Ex"). The reason I lost my feelings for him was because he kept promising that we'd get engaged. He'd say wait till this summer, wait til I get myself together financially (he's a doctor by the way), wait til New Year's, wait unitl after I come back from this trip, etc, etc. Once, I even gave him an ultimatum telling him that if he backed out, I would leave. He told me he would get me a ring, then the next day he changed his mind. I had already told people and everything! I was terribly embarrassed. So we broke up the last time he flaked on his promise, and I just said "f" him. I havent' moved on per say, but I don't even think about him anymore. Today he called me and said he took a trip to "get away" and think. He called me baby and said we need to talk. Do you think he might actually commit this time or am I in store for a let down?
2007-12-18 09:40:36 · 14 answers · asked by Just gorgeous dahling 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not forcing him. This is what he said he wants. He has told me over and over that I am the one for him, nobody else will do, and I am the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, and that he wants me to be his wife. These words came out of his mouth, I didn't make him say them. I just want him to either do what he says he's going to do or stop stringing me along so I can find someone who WILL commit to me.
2007-12-18 10:00:28 · update #1
see what he has to say...if he doesnt ask you to marry him ...then stand up and say dont ever ring and contact me ever again and walk away and dont look back...after that amout of time you should be married with children by now...dont waste anymore time on him if he does not have that ring to give you when you see him next...life is way too short to wait any longer for him
2007-12-18 09:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a chance he might commit but you just need to wait and hear what he has to say when he gets back. You said your feelings faded though? I really don't intend this to sound rude but would you magically have your feelings back if he decides to commit or would you just be really excited about the IDEA of it? You said you're not even thinking about him anymore so maybe he just wasn't the guy for you. Its hard to move on from a relationship when you've been with someone for so long but even if he comes back and says he is ready to commit, you need to make sure that you actually still do. I'm sure he cares about you but I can't say for sure if he will want to commit or not. It sounds like he might want to try to work things out between you two but it doesn't mean he would necessarily take the first chance to propose. Anyway, just make sure you know what your own feelings are no matter what the response and it'll all work out in the end. Good luck!
2007-12-18 09:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be calling to say hello. Do u really want to go through that again anyway. u also said that u have lost feelings for him anyway. U might be happier by ur self the way things are right now. I also think that u love the idea of being married to someone, because if u dont want feelings for him, why would u want him to propose? U have the answer. good luck
2007-12-18 09:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by yayohelpme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sad that you would try to forse someone to get engaged with you who obviously didn't want to. Ultimatums never work. How terribly selfish of you. You're the one that couldn't take the hint. Not him. The only right thing you did was break up with him. He's a fool for calling you.
2007-12-18 09:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by stygean666 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hear him out, but I would not give in to You Know What until there's an engagement ring on your finger.
Me and my husband took a break before it sunk in that we were meant to be together. Could be your guy just needed to feel your absence.
good luck!
2007-12-18 10:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by vicarious_notion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games. Tell him that he has 24 hrs. to bring the ring and make it official or he can get out of your life permanently.
2007-12-18 09:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't get your hopes up. Talk to him, see what he has to say. If you don't expect anything and something great happens good for you. If you don't expect anything and nothing happens....good for you, cause you haven't set yourself up for a let down. Maybe he has decided to be a big boy...and if not, let him go for good. Good luck.....I hope things work out!
2007-12-18 09:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by BeAuTiFuLlYbRoKeN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would suggest you are going to be let down --- i cant say what his problem is --- he seems to lie a lot more than even i have --- maybe he just wants to leave his options open in case "someone better" comes along ---- best wishes
2007-12-18 09:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No harm in talking to him. Do not do it at his house or yours. Neutral site. Also do not be the backup girl in case he is trying to find something better but wants you around in case he does not find it.
2007-12-18 09:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kris S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really love this guy ?
is afraid of commitment ? if so why ?
if he serious and you love him than listen to what he has to say.
tell him you have no intention of waiting if has problem commiting.
good luck
2007-12-18 09:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋