Would you go out on a second date with a guy who makes you pay the half of the bill in the restaurant?

Question

If a guy invites you to go to a restaurant then he orders more than you, and then when the bill comes he looks at it and before even you to say something he ask you to pay half of it, what would you do?And would you go out on a second date with him?

Answer 1

pay for Your meal only then never return his calls. the dating process is his chance to show you that he is able to be a provider. if he cant afford to DATE you then he cant afford to MARRY you. which may not be the immediate goal, but is the purpose of dating on a very basic level. so NO, no second date. also, men make more $$ in the workplace than women so they should be better equipped to pay for things. unless the man does not have a job (which would be another reason not to go on a 2nd date) he should be able to pay for dinner. otherwise he is not a real man.

Answer 2

Normally when invited to a restaurant the inviter pays the bill, the invitee does not. With dating though, it's generally the man who does the inviting and frankly I don't see why a man should have to pay for everything after plucking up courage and risking rejection when suggesting the date in the first place. I always made a point of paying my way on dates, especially if I didn't plan to see the guy again. If during dinner we had already made another date I would bring up the subject of the bill and if he insisted on paying I would make a deal to pay next time.
I think if women want any kind of equality in the world we have to be prepared to pay our way.

Answer 3

If someone invites another....the sex doesn't make a difference....it is assumed generally that they will pay the bill unless other arrangements are made beforehand. So everything in this question really hinges on how the original invitation was made.
As far as seeing him again, if think that dropping him simply because of this restaurant bill incident, if everything else about him and the "date" was good, would be indicate that you were more interested in the money aspect of the relationship than in him as a person.
Some of the ladies answering this certainly seem to be holding on to the double standard tightly; and then I'm wondering if they can't understand why they are not treated as equals at the end of the day. Respect is not deserved, it is earned.

Answer 4

Can you say, Cheep, cheep, cheepoooo.
I'm a gay man, and if I invited anther guy out to a restaurant I would not ask a penny. Now if another guy invited me to a restaurant, than I would leave my credit cards home. He would flip the bill. It's a date, and if you got invited to go out to eat, than the inviter needs to flip the bill.
I would not go on a date never go out to dinner with that guy ever again if I were you..

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Answer 5

I guess it depends on many factors...

On the one hand he might feel that by itemizing the bill would be considered picky.

He might feel that he is out with an "empowered" woman that is self sufficient and strong enough to just do "Dutch".

He might just be an @ss.

If he is doing it because he is cheap then screw that... I'm out of here...

But if he is doing it just because that is the way it is when you go out with anyone else, why should this instance be any different, then I would consider another date.

There is a fine line between a chauvinist pig and an overly-Politically Correct wimp... The rest of the date would determine what the TOTAL view on this guy is.

Answer 6

I would pay MY HALF of the bill and he can pay the rest, in which case I might consider going out with him again but if he just expected you to pay for part of his meal too then I say no way! Already showing signs of dependency and that's not what a relationship is supposed to be about.

Answer 7

It depends on the intention.

Most guys eat more than girls, so it is only natural that his order is more expensive than mine. If it's only slightly, I don't mind and I would like to find out more about him. But if he ordered expensive lobster when I have a burger, then he is either 1)selfish, 2)cheap 3)stupid and unaware of it, 4)inconsiderate and unaware of it. Which all 4 of these quality means bad mate. Run fast!

I am more turned off by guys who want to present themselves as generous, pay for my meal but too cheap to pay tips or rude to the waiters!

Answer 8

Um...if u like him, give him another chance. If you are turned of by this, you don't have to go out again.

Personally, I hate it when guys are not generous.
BUT, there r some guys who think splitting is the way to go esp if you dont know the girl.

It is upto you to see what kinda vibe you are getting from him.

Overall, go on another date...and see if he does the same.

I had a similar experience with a guy who would keep asking me out, but who would never pay for me. I called it off. Dont need a stingy man.

Added: I am definitely not saying that the man has to always pay. I will always offer and there are times when I prefer and fight to pay my share even if he wants to pay. But a guy who keeps on doing it....is a HUGE turn-off.

Answer 9

welll, it depends on a few things......if he asked you to go, then I would be expecting him to pay, just as if you asked him out, he should expect you to pay........women can't have it both ways, either you want to be equal to men, or you don't. Its a bit old fashioned to expect the man to pay for everything, going dutch is perfectly acceptable. But you would think that because he asked you, he would at least pay for the first date, then dutch from there on in...So either he's a guy who will treat you like an equal, or he's cheap. Depending on which you think, I would go out with him again, and try engaging him in a convo about his views on women.....

Answer 10

Definitely not. He invited you, therefore was obligated to pay for the entire meal. If he can't afford to pay for dinner, he shouldn't ask women out.