my ex is very confused. we broke up 7 months ago but are still both very much in love. She has never had a relationship before even tho she's 23 because she never found the right guy. Then she met me. anyway she thought that the honeymoon period was what it was always ment to feel like, after it started to fade she thought that it was it, that i wasn't right for her. The break up dragged on and on, we'd sort of get back together but then she'd change again. She has depression and is prone to mood swings. Anyway she is now seeing a shrink who has told her it is natural for the honeymoon period to fade. he said "you have been given (by her parents) very unrealistic views on relationships". Since then she's been quite lovey dovey but i don't know where i am, are we back together? i don't feel like i can ask her because everytime we do she freaks out about it. but for some reason it drives me mad... what should i do?
2007-12-18 09:03:48 · 3 answers · asked by Allan J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please don't say it's just lust either, it is really love there is no doubt about that, if it was lust i wouldn't have gone through all the hurt for the last 7 months if i could just s**g anyone
2007-12-18 09:12:48 · update #1
Good question. Now I'm not that kind of expert, because i am only thirteen, but maybe you should just take things as they go. Be her friend, but when you think she is acting as more than a fried do the same. When and if she starts to freak out just tell her what you feel. If she freaks out about that to, maybe you should take a break.
2007-12-18 09:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not sound like good relationship material until she deals with her depression and her unrealistically romantic ideas of what a long term relationship is supposed to be like. Of course you are being driven crazy, because a lack of open and honest communcation, coupled with complete unpredictability will definitely do that to a person! You may love her, but I honestly have to say it sounds like YOU need a break, because this is really not fair to you. Her confusion should not be your problem. In fact, maybe if she has a break from being in a relationship at all, she will better get a grip on whatever meds she should be taking, if any, and how NORMAL ppl act in a relationship. The lovey dovey business just sounds like an act, especially true because she is so clearly confused. Be kind to yourself, and if you are broken up, then BE broken up, clearly, and don't stay in this wierd limbo that you seem to be experiencing with her. Stop torturing yourself on her account.
2007-12-18 09:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should let her goo wut u feel is lust duh
2007-12-18 09:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by moon_bunny453 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋